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Fireworks and dog poo - WWYD?

70 replies

Sewbean · 03/11/2019 19:05

We had some fireworks in our garden last night. Saturday before Bonfire Night, 6.45pm, lasted not much more than 5 minutes, we told immediate neighbours and someone further along the road we know has dogs.

A woman I didn't recognise came to our door to complain. Said we were the most selfish people she had ever met and we would rot in hell for distressing her dog. Her exact words.

This morning we were all out of the house, car was away. Came home to find a dog poo in the middle of our front path, right in front of the doorstep.

Complaining woman must not have noticed the CCTV camera our neighbour recently installed which covers the joint part of our path nearest the pavement. Clearly shows her walking in the gate with a full dog poo bag and walking out and putting something small in the bin by the gate.

Now I get fireworks split opinion, but until they are illegal we are not doing anything wrong, we were not outrageous at all as these things go. I'm not going to apologise for our fireworks. But she's obviously been upset and I am assuming she feels better now she has evened the score so I want to just let it go. DH however is upset and wants to speak to her. We don't know which house she lives in but could find out easily enough I suppose.
I don't want a massive neighbourhood dispute over something that took us 30 seconds to clear up (luckily it was solid).

WWYD? Ignore or 'have a chat' and drag it on?

I vote ignore, DH unfortunately votes the opposite.

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tryingforminime · 03/11/2019 19:08

I would report her or at least post the footage of her on social media. But I'm a cow.

Fireworks are not illegal yet, so she should sod off

SlB09 · 03/11/2019 19:09

You need to embarrass the hell out of her by showing her the CCTV footage, she's gone above and beyond what is reasonable and that is disgusting. Other argument is that that way she gets what she wants, go and do a poo in her doorstep anonymously.

havingagiggle · 03/11/2019 19:11

I would 100% report her! That is absolutely disgraceful

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PatchworkElmer · 03/11/2019 19:16

I think I’d have to have a word. Tell her that you consider it quite concerning behaviour and that if it happens again, you will be reporting her.

misspiggy19 · 03/11/2019 19:16

I would report her too. Why would you let her get away with this? Stop being a chump

Lunafortheloveogod · 03/11/2019 19:20

Report her. Who says it was dog shit..

I also like the social media the video option too.

A lot of pets are distressed by fireworks but most of us just give calming solutions and blast the radio at night for this n next week.. glad my lot at the moment are fine with them, but my old boy went mental for 19years... never once did we abandon shit on someone’s step.

TrickyKid · 03/11/2019 19:23

I'd report her. Awful behavior. I get that dogs don't like fireworks but you've done nothing wrong.

MonChatEstMagnifique · 03/11/2019 19:25

I'd let your husband speak to her if that's what he wants to do. I'd get him to tell her that if she does anything like this again then you will report her. Hopefully she'll be so embarrassed that you won't get any trouble from her in the future.

I don't like fireworks, I have animals who are frightened of them but her behaviour was absolutely disgusting.

Lulualla · 03/11/2019 19:29

Don't let your husband speak to her! Can you imagine the story she will spin from a man approaching her and shouting at her and threatening her etc. He could open himself up to all sorts of accusations.

Post the footage on neighbourhood pages and ask if anyone knows her, could they pm you. And then report her to the police.

notapizzaeater · 03/11/2019 19:32

I'd post it on the local Facebook page asking for info and report her too.

Beautiful3 · 03/11/2019 19:33

Yes I would let your husband speak to her. Its important to make her aware that you know what she did. Otherwise it's going to happen again, next time she has a grievance with your family.

ControversialFerret · 03/11/2019 19:39

YANBU. What she did was nasty.

And I say that as someone who is currently keeping one of my - utterly petrified - dogs company, in a darkened room with classical music blasting, to try and cover the sounds of fireworks outside.

BiteyShark · 03/11/2019 19:42

My dog is scared of fireworks and I would like them regulated to only licensed displays.

However, whilst they are legal I wouldn't dream of complaining to my neighbours. What she did was disgusting and I would report her given you have cctv.

misspiggy19 · 03/11/2019 19:42

Don't let your husband speak to her! Can you imagine the story she will spin from a man approaching her and shouting at her and threatening her etc. He could open himself up to all sorts of accusations.

^This woman has proved how crazy she is. Under no circumstances should your husband talk to her!

rookiemere · 03/11/2019 19:46

Unless it happens again, I would ignore as if she is prepared to do this, then it feels like her behaviour could escalate fairly quickly.

smileylottie87 · 03/11/2019 19:47

I think I would bag up the poo and return it to her, just knock and say I think you left something on my path. If she denies it then just let her know about the cctv, she can't just go around putting shit on other people's houses.

Itsallpetetong · 03/11/2019 19:47

Yes I would let your husband speak to her. Its important to make her aware that you know what she did. Otherwise it's going to happen again, next time she has a grievance with your family

^agree with pp. it will also make her th8nk twice before doing it to someone else.

iamNOTmagic · 03/11/2019 19:51

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LazyFace · 03/11/2019 19:52

I totally hate fireworks but her behaviour is disgusting and I'd be tempted to put it on social media.

QueenEnid · 03/11/2019 20:08

I would absolutely not let this go. I'd pick it up and knock on the door and return it back to her making it perfectly clear that if I ever saw her and her dog near my property again it would be going through her letterbox minus the bag.

That is absolutely disgusting

TheReluctantCountess · 03/11/2019 20:14

I would not let that go.
I agree with the local FB pages - post the videos and ask if anyone knows who she is.
When you find out where she lives, I think it’s worth having a word and tell her about the cctv footage.

ChardonnaysDistantCousin · 03/11/2019 20:15

I honestly cannot imaging how tipping dog poo out of the bag would would and I have decades of experience with dog poo and bags.

Once it goes in it's completely smushed and very difficult to manoeuvre out.

Dollymixture22 · 03/11/2019 20:16

My cat got quite distressed by neighbours fireworks. But it sounded like they were having fun.p, and I live in a suburban area and they are doing nothing wrong,

Unfortunately it’s just one of those things, once a year cats and dogs will get stressed out. My cat does shit in their garden occasionally (I am doing everything I can to stop this) so I am In no position to criticise anyone😊😂

Adogwithabone · 03/11/2019 20:21

Please call her out, OP!

ItWentInMyEye · 03/11/2019 20:21

I'd speak to her. Or at the very least throw the shit back onto her property 🤣