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Dreams about my husband and my sister

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Cursedlife86 · 03/11/2019 17:04

I’m not sure if I’m going crazy! I have lost all trust in my husband I caught him messaging about 20 different women in March including a girl at his work nearly 20 yrs younger than him I caused so much problems the we sorted thing for the sake of our kids we have 3. I have been with him nearly 19 yrs the I caught him messaging girls again a few months later as well as live porn chats ect and talking about meeting them and having them over as I work nights! Although I know he hasn’t actually had anyone over as my kids would have told me. He stopped again however I am rubbish for looking at my phone so my sister keeps messaging him to ask to borrow things (she lives down the road) and she is nearly 20 yrs younger. She has a troubled life and keeps talking to him about it and he won’t tell me or show me what she says. I feel she is a spoilt brat and most problems she causes herself and just takes what she can get from everyone. Now I keep having dreams about them flirting and she will even come to my house in her dressing gown. I don’t know if it’s because events that’s happened or am I on to something. Plus he has cheated in the past and poss has a daughter with another woman from when we first got together. I’m tiered of feeling worthless but I do love him. I am not sure how to react!

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Maybe83 · 03/11/2019 17:07

Leave. This is not a marriage and your husband has no respect for you.

I would love to say your imagining it but with your husbands history it is possible.

Do you really want to live the rest of your life feeling like this. You have a choice.

DawgLover · 03/11/2019 17:12

Leave.

20 women? Twice in a year? He sounds like a total sleaze, and with the 20 year age gap potentially a total predator in young vulnerable women.

Staying together for the kids is honestly a bullshit excuse, no one is happy in an unhappy marriage, kids included.

You deserve more and he has consistently shown you that he doesn't respect your relationship.

merryhouse · 03/11/2019 17:16

What do you love about him?

Cursedlife86 · 03/11/2019 21:20

I’m not even sure why sometime it’s like he has always had my heart no matter what crap we have been through and what he has done to me. We have a very very intimate relationship still and he is such a charmer! Every time I try to leave something pulls me back. I have tried to kick him out but he now causes such a fight it upsets the kids and affects them in so many ways!

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