Could this situation be any worse ?

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I have got myself in a real real pickle . I became friends with a woman who I confided with about problems in my marriage . I had a real shock in our marriage which I rather not divulge as it’s so upsetting. My friend and I had too many drinks and we ended up in bed ! Omg, I think it was because she was so nice to me and I have been an emotional wreck of late . Anyway I really regret it, she’s a lovely person however, I am not gay and I want to work my marriage out . Problem is she keeps contacting me now, and I think she wants a repeat . I am so scared my husband will find out! I feel very depressed and upset ! Telling him is not an option as it would end in divorce.

Be honest, if you're not wanting to continue a relationship - just tell her

what was the 'shock' ?

You have no choice but to tell her you made a mistake and don't want a repeat. Wish her well and then consider whether your marriage is really worth continuing if you were so easily led into someone else's bed.

Cheating on your husband is indeed quite the pickle.

What kind of drinks? Steering clear in case I accidentally go lesbian for a night.

Doesn't sound like many pickles were involved in that encounter op...

What kind of shock makes you shag someone else? I don't know how you can shag a woman and be straight.

You've cheated on your husband regardless of the fact you slept with another woman.
That's more than getting in a pickle, that's being unfaithful. Tell your friend there won't be a repeat performance and work on your marriage.

Just tell her it was a mistake and you’re not interested in repeating it. Then you need to assess exactly what’s wrong in your marriage because no level of shock would make me have sex with someone else. I also think you should tell your husband, he has a right to know what you’ve done and to decide what he wants to do about that.

I would explain to her that it was a mistake and won't be happening again. As for telling your husband, I think that's up to you whether you decide to or not. It depends really on the state of your marriage, whether it's worth working for etc. My gut feeling would be to keep this to yourself for now.

Did ye, ken?