If you separated from your husband l, was it the right thing to do ? Do you regret it or are you glad ?

[Lardlizard]

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Not husband, but a 16yr relationship, house, child...

As with many PPs, my only regret was not doing it sooner. I checked out of the relationship not long after DS was born and I stayed for a further 3 years.

When I told him I was leaving I felt nothing and had to bite my lip to stop myself from laughing when exDP started going on about how I was his best friend, he couldn't live without me, would marry me if thats what I wanted.

I do wonder whether I will meet anyone else and the thought of never doing so takes me to quite a dark place, however the fear of being alone was nothing compared to the thought of staying in an emotionally abusive relationship devoid of affection

@Ginandtonic I was lucky enough to have some very lovely friends who supported me through the break and who have been keen to do more socially.
I have also started taking the lead a lot more in instigating events and contacting old, more distant friends / acquaintances. I accept every invitation, even if it means going out 3 or 4 nights in a row (often followed my fallow periods), started seeing distant family more and have joined a local theatre group as a volunteer. I am in no way theatrical but they are grateful for extra hands to do stewarding or man the bar. They have social events too.
I also do stuff through the organisation MeetUp. It's an app and they arrange lots of activities that you can just go along to. It takes courage but is doable.
I've also been on holiday (tour) on my own using tour groups.
I find planning weeks ahead helps too.
It can still be lonely sometimes but it does get better and you get used to entertaining yourself.
I hope this helps? PM me if you like

Separated last November and has been totally the right thing to do for me and the kids. I stayed in my marriage thinking it was best for the kids but since the split I've realised staying actually damaged the kids more. My life hasn't changed very much which says a lot about how my marriage was the last few years.

It was the best thing that's ever happened to me. A weight has been lifted. Like others, I'm only sad I didn't do it sooner.

Don't regret it at all- one of the unexpected results is that I am a far, far better mother. I do regret not tackling the relationship dynamic with my ex, even after I left- I was still "the weak one" and willingly let him have everything, meaning I had to start again from scratch.