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How to break baby news

39 replies

Tash11289 · 01/11/2019 15:47

Hi,

Me and my husband are looking to break the baby news to our 3 other kiddies on Christmas day but I don't now how to do it any suggestions thanks

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Otterseatpuffinsdontthey · 01/11/2019 15:51

How old are the others - can they read? Big brother/big sister personalised Christmas t-shirts?
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Otterseatpuffinsdontthey · 01/11/2019 15:53

Just another idea - personalised letter(s) from Santa [santa]

NoGravyForYou · 01/11/2019 15:56

I saw a video where they each unwrapped a present and in one was a bottle, a rattle in another and then a baby grow with Baby xyz due 2019 in the last one.

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MustardScreams · 01/11/2019 15:58

Has the idea of another come up before? I know when mum and dad told my sister and I they were having another baby we hated the idea at first, and if they’d told us on Christmas Day it would have been hideous.

We were 7&11 so still little and not just being total bellends about it!

ChicCroissant · 01/11/2019 16:07

Congratulations, OP.

I would go for Christmas Eve instead tbh and not make a big thing out of it - if they don't react with instant enthusiasm then you are going to be hurt. And there is always a chance that they may not be keen on the idea so I really wouldn't make it into a big 'reveal' type event. It's too much pressure on them to react in the right way, especially if you would be upset if they were negative about it.

Amber2019 · 01/11/2019 16:30

Depends on their ages and whether or not they will be happy about it?

Whattodoabout · 01/11/2019 16:34

I’m not sure I would do it on Christmas Day unless you’re certain they will take the news well. I wrapped up gifts for my DC last year- big sister/brother T-shirt’s and a couple of books about getting a new sibling. My then 7 year old DD did not take the news as well as I expected to say the least, lots of tears and comforting. I wouldn’t have wanted that on Christmas Day.

PotteringAlong · 01/11/2019 16:36

I’m with everyone else; wait until after Christmas unless you’re pretty sure this will be amazing news for them.

In fact, wait until after Christmas anyway. 2020 will be all about the new baby. Let Christmas Day not be about them too.

BumpkinSpiceBatty · 01/11/2019 16:37

I wouldn't do this on Christmas day. Might be lovely to find a extra present on boxing day that would reveal the surprise?

Househunt1 · 01/11/2019 16:41

Oh come on even if they don't look happy about the news record it on camera and it will be funny to look back on!

MustardScreams · 01/11/2019 16:42

I wouldn’t want to potentially ruin my children’s Christmas just for a funny video tbh.

Aquamarine1029 · 01/11/2019 16:42

I wouldn't do this on Christmas. I'd wait for New Year's.

saraclara · 01/11/2019 16:43

Don't overshadow Christmas with your news.
Make it a separate event.

Househunt1 · 01/11/2019 16:43

I don't think it would ruin it and it's not the children's choice if their mum and dad want another baby

Ginghamricecakes · 01/11/2019 16:45

I remember learning I was going to be a big sister, I think I was 12 at the time. I cried and cried, needless to say I wasn't thrilled with the idea until they were about 6mnths old Blush maybe hold off on Christmas day just in case Wink

Butterflyone12e · 01/11/2019 16:45

OP do you think they'll be happy about the news? If not, then I strongly recommend you don't tell them on Christmas day and ruin the celebrations for them.

If you think they'll be happy, then how about buying them each a t-shirt saying 'Big brother/sister'.

Walnutwhipster · 01/11/2019 16:46

Not a chance I'd do this unless I was sure all three DC would be thrilled. You risk upsetting their Christmas.

Bearfrills · 01/11/2019 16:56

When I was pregnant with DC4 we wanted to surprise the DC with the news that New Baby was going to be a little sister. We bought a big pink "it's a girl" balloon and put it in a box in the middle of the room for them to open. Open box, balloon floats out, they're all thrilled and we have a lovely video to look back on in years to come. Right?

No.

No no no no no.

Box is opened. Balloon floats out. DC3 (2yo) shrieks "balloon! MINE!!!!!!!" and launches himself at it like Gollum at an H Samuel outlet. DC2 (5yo) is thrilled and starts chanting "girl girl girl girl girl!". DC1 (7yo) says "oh, it's a girl..." in a small voice then loudly "I'm really disappointed!" before flinging himself onto the sofa loudly sobbing.

I'm very glad it was an ordinary Tuesday and not Christmas Day. I agree with everyone saying that you should tell them on a different day just in case they don't take it well.

AJPTaylor · 01/11/2019 17:01

Dd1 was pleased at 12, dd2 at 10 was horrified and utterly inconsolable.
Really wait until the New Year. Maybe new years day would be suitable?

Gingaaarghpussy · 01/11/2019 17:05

I don't know about kids, but I bought a grandparents xmas card for my ex in laws. Took afew minutes for the penny to drop.

Pringlesfortea · 01/11/2019 17:09

Not sure Xmas day is a good idea
Your making their Christmas Day all about you

How about New Year’s Day? Start of the new year and new baby

AmyFl · 01/11/2019 17:13

Just tell them, it doesn't need to be a big reveal at Christmas.

PurpleDaisies · 01/11/2019 17:13

Is there a particular reason to wait until Christmas?

RockingMyFiftiesNot · 01/11/2019 17:14

Congratulations! I agree with posters who say 'not on Christmas day' - save that for the excitement of Christmas. I like the idea of wrapping up obvious baby things - maybe open on Boxing Day, and ask what they think they might be a clue to. Then when baby comes they can re-wrap as their gift to the new baby?

GrumpyHoonMain · 01/11/2019 17:18

Will they be full siblings or half, and do they all live with you?

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