I need to secretly jump for joy about my divorce on here. Thank you Mumsnet!

[secretdivorcee]

It took 2 years and thousands and thousands of pounds, but as of today, my abusive ExDH is now officially out of my life, and I have a fair financial settlement in my bank account.

So many people are rooting for me irl, but I need a day to let it sink in before I tell people and have to manage their emotions. So I've just made myself a little thread to have a dance in.

I did it. It was so hard and heartbreaking but now I feel such a sense of peace.

If you're reading this and you're at the start of the divorce journey - well done. Keep going. You can do it and it will be worth it.

Thanks mumsnet!

Huge congratulations!

Congratulations. Have a truly peaceful, relaxed Xmas x

Congratulations! Mine will be complete any day now I can’t wait! Been hanging over me for a long time
All the best OP

Congratulations! It took me 2 years to get rid of my XH and a lot of people couldn't understand why I wasn't down when I had the divorce papers in my hand, but I was relieved that it was finally over!

Hey OP, get you! Look at that twinkle in your eye and, I say, have you lost about 12 stone of dead weight? It looks good on you!

Well done. Here's to your new beginning and loving and looking after yourself

Doing a happy dance on your behalf OP. I’ve been trying to divorce my arsehole ex for the last 6 years. It’s cost me a bomb and he’s played dirty but hopefully I’ll be doing my own happy dance soon.

Thanks all. It's good to be heard by the mumsnet massive!
@whatisthisfuckery - I hope you get a resolution soon.

Well done.

Congratulations and wishing you the happiest of futures!

Aah I remember my happy dance of divorce! I wish you joy of your freedom

Congratulations!

Congratulations! I'm hoping I can say the same asap, left an emotional abuser over a year ago. Divorce started in January, almost at decree absolute stage when he drags his heels even more trying to stop me getting half the house so will now have to go to court for financial settlement, hopefully won be another year! Have an extra glass of something nice for me!

Brilliant news OP! Well done, you did it!

Well done .
You sometimes think it’s never going to end and then it does and it feels incredible.

From marriage going pearshaped to divorce and end of financials was a gruelling 4 and a half years.

I have had to work very hard on my health since then as the stress caused me awful problems so do think about you, your body , your mental and emotional health and what you can do to repair the damage.

I met my second husband before the end of the financials and he’s been my rock.

Congratulations though..these last 11 years have been bliss for me and I hope you are sailing off into a wonderful future

Hooray for you! Well done for hanging in there. Here's to your bright, peaceful, happy future.

Fantastic, i felt on top of the world as i left the court after my Decree Absolute. I bought myself Champagne, chocolate and a huge bunch of flowers, i really did feel as though the world had been lifted from my shoulders. The best bit though is that the fuckwit that i used to be married to was working overseas and had been phoning me up screaming at me to apply for the Absolute, i had always told him that "this was my Divorce and i would be in control for once" So just to piss him off i never told him about the divorce. Five weeks later he phoned me calling me all the names under the sun because he had taken his latest conquest (less than 6 months)on holiday and wanted to propose when they were in Petra and how it had all been a waste of money because i never told him that i had signrd the papers on what would have been out wedding anniversary