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My anxiety is ruining my life

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Hopefulmidwife · 31/10/2019 20:10

I've suffered with it for a long time, and usually manage to curb any attacks, or feelings, or quirks I have. However, i feel it's getting worse.

On Friday I began to feel the starts of it... I felt worried, clammy, heart racing and nauseous. I managed to keep it at bay until Monday night.

My goodness, I had the longest attack I've ever had - 4.5 hrs.

I was nauseous, I was full body convulsing, I was clammy, teary. I slept it off but it continued into Tuesday and some of yesterday. I didn't eat meals for two days (I just snacked when my nausea allowed it) My anxiety is usually just me worrying about something small and my brain manifests it into something fucking massive. I can't even pin point what started this one.

Tuesday, at the age of (few months from) 29, I went to my mums and just sat with her and cried, and cried and cried.

Has anyone battled anxiety and won? How can I battle this? It's ruining my life. I can't deal with it anymore 😞

OP posts:
mrs12345 · 31/10/2019 20:15

Hello - I have long term anxiety combined with the occasional panic attack . There is medication you can take which reduces the physical symptoms of a panic attack / episode . It’s propanadol and it’s basically a beta blocker , stops the racing heart etc . It doesn’t alter / stop the overall anxiety but can be extremely useful when experiencing something that you have described . Ask your GP about it maybe .

MonsteraCheeseplant · 31/10/2019 20:21

Have you tried IAPT, you local Improving Access to Psychological Therapies service? They're usually self-referral.

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Hopefulmidwife · 31/10/2019 20:34

I haven't been to my gp about it for a long time so will go back and ask about both, thank you mrs and monster.

They wouldn't give me beta blockers a few years ago due to low blood pressure but maybe that's changed 😊

OP posts:
mrs12345 · 31/10/2019 21:03

Good luck - it’s such a desperate feeling , you’re not alone . I’m very slowly getting there after finally talking a GP about it but I don’t think it will ever totally go - it’s just part of me . But ways to deal with it can definitely improve your life x

TheChampagneGalop · 31/10/2019 21:10

I'm sorry to hear that. Is your health OK otherwise? It could be good to ask your gp to rule out anything physical that makes it worse (like thyroid issues)

GinningSpenny · 31/10/2019 22:45

Took me years to realise my anxiety is directly related to hormones. Seems so obvious now. I went through a particularly horrendous 18months where I had no periods at all and permanent crippling and destroying anxiety. Then I had an almighty period horror film stylee and almost within a day or two felt really quite good!!
I had spent ages looking up why I might be mentally unwell, potential triggers and thought about counselling. I was even too anxious to go to counselling. To wake up one morning with that 85% gone was a massive eye opener.
Having said that, i still am quite anxious and probably significantly more than average Jo. I am quite controlling in some ways to help manage it, I need a LOT of reassurance. I have also been quite overt with explaining to my family how they need to understand it and help with it (i.e by communicating a lot with me, repeating things if needs be and staying in touch).

Haggisfish · 31/10/2019 22:50

Yep. I learned my triggers-feeling out of control, hunger and being tired. Realised a good jog on spot helps me. I prioritise my Own mental
Health-I do two
Or three things I really enjoy. And finally I take daily low dose duloxetine.

fluffyhousen · 31/10/2019 23:10

@GinningSpenny that is very interesting, because I have been wondering myself if my anxiety is hormone related as it seems to get better and worse throughout the month. I wonder if going on the pill would help that a little?

Elle7rose · 31/10/2019 23:20

That's horrible; poor you!

I have severe anxiety with OCD and it's a daily struggle however like the poster above I have noticed that hormones (both mid-cycle/ovulatory and end-of-cycle PMS) make a huge difference to my feelings of panic and fear.

Could you look for a therapist?

Nillynally · 31/10/2019 23:51

I've tried citalopram when I was at my worst and that really helped. I went to the drs a couple of years ago as it started to creep back again and he suggested worry management therapy over the phone with a therapist once a week which was really helpful. I then got pregnant and now have a 5 month old and can tell you that I've only had a couple of instances where I've felt that creeping anxiety but it only lasts a few hours. I think the reason for this is because I didn't drink at all whilst pregnant and only have one drink at a time now due to breast feeding. I found I had horrific hangxiety before I got pregnant but the feelings of anxiety would stay with me days after the drinking session. I would also have a drink if I was feeling anxious and therefore prolonging the anxiety! I don't know if you drink alcohol but it's definitely worth thinking about. That and the worry Mangement. Good luck- it is doable xx

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