Realistically, how often is 50/50 residency given?

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Just that really. I have a feeling it's not very common.

Well, why are you asking?

What? Why do you think I'm asking?

Well, lots of Mn threads that implicitly or explicitly ask people to share stories without giving any context are by lazy journalists.

I'm asking what the odd are, would be a pretty shit article.

I'm asking because my friend would like 50/50 residency of his son and I want to know the likelihood. The dm will not agree to it.

Odds that should say. Haven't asked anyone to share stories. I've NC for this in case it's linked back to my friend and causes problems for him (also the reason I'm being vague) but MNHQ can verify me if needed. Report if you feel the need.

My brother has 50/50 care of their three. He and his ex live in the same village which helps with the practicalities.

@MuseumOfYou thank you. Did your brother's ex agree or was it court ordered?

I know two off the top of my head. One was mutually agreed (they swapped every 2 days ). Other was court ordered, swapping every week. Both cases, the parents stayed local to the dcs' schools, and carried on with the dcs' routines with clubs and hobbies, so it was simple enough.

We're 50/50.

By agreement, though.

It was some years ago but it was by agreement, I think.

I hate this new (ish) thing for 50/50 care. Children thrive better in one home and that's usually with their mother. Not always but usually.

It's not a popular opinion these days but it's in the best interests of most children

Oh and of course I don't mean that fathers shouldn't have their kids! They absolutely should. But this rigid 50/50 split isn't in the best interests of most kids

Assuming that the dm is disputing foreign good reasons?

Assuming that the dm is disputing FOR good reasons? Not foreign!!!

Assuming that the dm is disputing foreign good reasons?
Her maintenance would stop.

I know I'm about to get slaughtered because on mn mothers do no wrong and I'll get accused of being the ow etc. The truth is, the dc spends minimal time with his dm. He's palmed off onto various family members daily and if an offer of 50/50 plus maintenance staying put was put forward she would jump at it.
My friend is jumping through hoops to see his son and wants stability for him.

My friend has 50/50 as does BIL with his ex.

I know three adults who were raised by divorced parents under 50/50 deals. They seem to have wildly varying views on it as adults. I will say that the one who is mostly positive about it had parents who worked very hard at co parenting, had a very amicable relationship with each other and new partners, and lived within easy walking distance of each other, and on the same street for years, and so she could just amble between homes with little fuss.

The one who's parents didn't get on is very negative about it and says she feels she had no home as a teen and just lived out of a backpack.

Apparently it's not agreed often as part of a court order as it is not thought as being in the child's best interests, having 2 homes etc.

There are lots of parents who agree to it as an informal arrangement between themselves though.