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Relentless monotony

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MrsAquaman · 27/10/2019 13:33

I need ideas before I go out of my mind with boredom from the relentless monotony of weekends. I work in the week and get sat and sun off with DD and DH. But I just feel like every weekend is mapped out with the same stuff. Sat we do food shopping and see family. Sundays mostly include church followed by seeing the in-laws. We are rarely at home in between about 10am and 8pm both days and I'm just so bored of it all! Don't get me wrong I like spending time with both families, I just find I'm not looking forward to weekends any more. Pleeeeease can you give your suggestions for how you break the cycle of doing the same things each weekend and feel like you've achieved something more fun?

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Michaelbaubles · 27/10/2019 13:36

Never get into the habit of “always” doing something, that way boredom results. The only thing there that has any reason to always take place at the same time is church. No need to see family every single week - maybe they’re as bored if it as you are. Or mix it up - meet them at a pub for lunch or suggest a family afternoon at the seaside or a walk in the woods. Maybe book yourself or DC into a class that takes place at the weekend so you don’t have to go and that’ll break the habit. Obligation is the death of any relationship, family included, IMO.

Samplesss · 27/10/2019 13:39

I would do an online shop, or if you don't like the idea one of you going shopping one evening. To spend weekend time doing it adds to the monotony so much! Hmmm it's tricky, could you either see family less (maybe one every week which would leave a day free), or see if they would enjoy coming to yours or going out instead? What stuff do you enjoy? I couldn't deal with more than one day being the same every weekend, keeping a day free and seeing what you fancy or relaxing is important in my opinion.

DonPablo · 27/10/2019 13:43

Well, don't do what I've done today. I tried to clean my washing machine by putting fairy platinum in the powder drawer. Suds everywhere an error code that wouldn't go away, the back panel off and much swearing later, all sorted. Until. I decided to take the rubber seal off and clean that. Apparently it won't go back in unless you take the whole machine apart.

I wish I hadn't bothered! You've got to mix it up at the weekend I find. Next week, I'll tackle the cooker. Jokes.

msmith501 · 27/10/2019 13:44

Take a break from church, see in laws once a month, spread shopping across the week or do it online and plan alternatives - long walks, picnics, what ever it is you like to do as a hobby. It's not hard if you really want to make the change. It doesn't sound as if any of the weekend brings you much pleasure at the moment.

Iloveacurry · 27/10/2019 13:46

Why do you need to see family every weekend? It’s a bit much really.

misscockerspaniel · 27/10/2019 13:47

DonPablo

Whatsnewpussyhat · 27/10/2019 13:49

Could you book a weekend away to break the cycle. Nice city break with lots to see, nice restaurants, quality time together. Then maybe see family every other week.

Stop being a people pleaser and please yourself.

Drabarni · 27/10/2019 13:52

We never have always done things at certain times, not even working (I know some don't have the choice) It's a sure way to be bored.
Visy family less often, plan weekends to include something for your family to do together.
Do an online shop once a week.

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MrsAquaman · 27/10/2019 14:32

I like the idea of doing a shop in the week. Will try that. Yes maybe we'll do something and invite family out with us then still gives opportunity to see them but do something different. Would love to have a weekend/night away, money is very tight atm but have discussed a getaway as a christmas present to ourselves.
Slightly more lighthearted... what would you do given the freedom of a day to yourself with no constraints?

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MrsAquaman · 27/10/2019 14:34

@DonPablo hilarious (not for you!), you're right, I'm glad I've not spent my day doing that!

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ShirleyPhallus · 27/10/2019 14:36

Is it really necessary to see family every single weekend and to attend church every single weekend?

Why don’t you get a load of bits of paper, each person in the family write a day trip idea on then chuck them in a bowl, then each weekend someone can pick one and you do that. They don’t need to be expensive - trip to the seaside, day at park with pedallo ride, walk around stately home, pyjama day with film, stay in and bake cupcakes, do a garden picnic etc etc etc

DDIJ · 27/10/2019 14:37

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raisinseverywhere · 27/10/2019 14:38

Try to alternate and only see family once a fortnight. I always try to have a couple of hours to myself on a weekend to pop to the shops, go for a walk or meet a friend for a coffee.

Spied · 27/10/2019 14:45

We do the shopping after work one day through the week.
I'd say cut down on the visiting. One weekend a month visit parents and in-laws. If you have a day out planned and you are happy for them to come along then mention it.
Presumably they also know where you live so what's to stop them arranging the odd visit to you?
On weekends we usually just do as we wish. It's a sense of freedom not feeling you 'have' to be somewhere.
Sometimes we do visit family, others we will go out to a restaurant for lunch, or go for a long walk.Sometimes the cinema. Sometimes we do nothing at all. DC play together or invite a friend and dp and I will Potter around.

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