Unheard compliments

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I've just been reading the thread about compliments.

Following on = what is the best compliment you have heard about yourself that wasn't direct.

That is one that you heard that you weren't meant to:

OR

The one that you heard second or third hand - so someone has complimented you to someone else and it has got back to you.

Mine

Twenty years ago I bought a house that needed a lot of work and my Dad told me it was the wrong thing to do as it needed more work than I would be able to handle.

A couple of years later, having done the work, a neighbour said

'I didn't think you could do it and I told your Dad he was mad for letting you (I was 40 and divorced). Your Dad said .

I loved my Dad but he never ever praised me to my face and this has really stuck with me.

I got really into slings and wrapping with my 2nd child. It was hard work learning and took lots of practice etc as I really got into different wraps and carries - but I was really pleased how it all worked for us and DD seemed very happy with the arrangement.

DH never really acknowledged anything about this incredible new skill I'd mastered - at the same time as looking after a newborn and a toddler.

After about 8 months I overheard him telling one of his friends 'honestly mate I don't know how she does it, all this material and then suddenly, there she is, up on her back all happy. It's amazing'

And I beamed and beamed for weeks after.

@FusionChefGeoff Lovely, that's just what I was hoping for.

It's lovely when you hear a compliment about you rather than to you.

Compliments are great - but those you aren't meant to hear are somehow even more special.

When me and DF had been dating for about 4/5 months I overheard him at a BBQ talking to a lad friend about me. He was saying “it’s just so easy with her. That’s the only way I can explain it. Really easy, it just fits. That’s why I want to marry her”

We were at that stage of not necessarily having those discussions between ourselves but I felt exactly the same and it was lovely to hear it. But lolz at the boy language they were using to discuss it.

Oh these are lovely.

My FIL was helicoptered to a hospital whilst on holiday. Obviously huge shock and upsetting. My MIL phoned me and I organised the travel for her adult children to get to them etc..
The nurse told my DP when he got to the hospital to see his dad and support his mum "when we asked your mum whom did she want to phone, she said I will phone Pancakeflipper, she will get everything and everyone sorted and make things seem do-able. I don't need more drama. "
My MIL has never ever given the impression she thinks me capable of making a cup of tea. I was amazed.

love, love, love these.

Aren't they the best.

I was in a group of people everyone talking
and someone said :

"Well none of us are exactly elegant are we??"

And my crush said very quietly under his breath not intending to be heard

"Vanya is"

And thats how i knew he liked me back

am I being stupid or did you miss a line from your op? I cant see what your dad said

The neighbour said ...

Your Dad said "When H makes her mind up to do something she does it and nothing will stop her"

My Dad loved us all but was very much a 'father' rather than a 'daddy' (7 kids born in the 40s and 50s) and thought that praise spoiled children.

oh that is lovely