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Mother wont food shop?

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DayLifetime · 26/10/2019 19:06

So I'm just over 18 and I have a barely over minimum wage full time job until I figure out what the hell I wanna do with my life. I can feed my self so my fridge almost completely empty and money isnt a problem. My mother is a nursing supervisor at one of the best hospitals in Massachusetts. So she make six figures has a car and everything no physical condition stopping her from going to the store. I try to address the issue respectfully. By saying "mom would you please do a food shopping." I get accuse of being demanding entitled and selfish and then accuses me further of being demanding for just asking. She told me I cant tell her what to do but as you can see by my question I wasnt. So I went out and bought pizza cause I have a little sister that just turned 12 and its just for myself and her and she gave it away to other people when I was at work without my permission on her day off she could of ordered or went to the store. I just dont get it money was never an issue ever but this continues to happen and I fail to understand why. I buy my food at the grocery store and she eat and she probably makes what I make in 4hrs in an hr I've seen her bank statements so I just eat out now and let the fridge stay empty cause this is crazy she even did it to me as a teen growing up but lucky I have a job now.

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Slappadabass · 26/10/2019 19:15

Is your little sister been fed? If not, I would be reporting your mother to the authorities for child neglect.

CircleofWillis · 26/10/2019 23:36

Who is she giving your food away to?

Beth3886 · 27/10/2019 10:34

Why don't you offer to do a food shop and cook? I used to do a food shop for my mum from 16 years old every Saturday..
Maybe she just needs help?

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Waxonwaxoff0 · 27/10/2019 10:53

@Beth3886 it's not OP's responsibility to ensure her younger sister is fed. We all have jobs for goodness sake, we all have to look after our children too. It's a parent's responsibility. She's neglecting her children by not providing food for them.

stucknoue · 27/10/2019 11:00

Why not ask for an allowance from her and you do the shopping? It's not your responsibility to do it but perhaps your mum is struggling, hours are very long in the USA

FionaOgre · 27/10/2019 11:16

Is your DSis being fed? At 12 she is too young to fend for herself. (I was in the same boat. My DM didn't cook dinner if she wasn't hungry. Same went for buying food in. I spent many evenings eating a bowl of microwaved frozen peas because that was all she had in) You're 18 so technically adult and can legally be self sufficient.

Go on Craigslist or something and try and find a cheap or free small refrigerator and keep the food you buy in your room.

Inform your DM that Child services would want to be made aware of your DSis not being fed.

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