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Stay put or move somewhere bigger....

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Pepperwand · 25/10/2019 13:46

Last year DH and I were in the process of buying a bigger house in the same area as we currently live. Our buyer pulled out and it caused the chain to collapse so we didn't end up moving. DH now says he thinks it was a blessing in disguise and actually had we moved and taken on the bigger mortgage we'd be far more financially strained than we are now. I do understand where he's coming from but still seem to be pining for a bigger home.

Our current house is lovely and has everything that we need but none of the nice to have extras. It's a 3 bed so our two DC both have their own bedrooms but they are very small, DC1 in a standard single room and DC2 in the box room. There's no hallway, you come straight into the living room through the front door and there's only one bathroom, no downstairs loo. The hallway and downstairs loo are my main issues with the house, otherwise it's great but DH thinks these aren't really big enough issues to warrant moving somewhere bigger. The house we were going to buy was a much larger 4 bed so we'd have had a guest room/playroom but would have increased our mortgage payments by about 50%. We could technically afford the increase although it would be tight but DH now thinks it would be better to stay in the house we're in, overpay the mortgage and be able to afford a nicer standard of living. I always thought it would be better to move to somewhere we could grow into and start paying off a larger mortgage earlier.

WWYD? Is it better to stay in a smaller house but be more financially comfortable or to stretch to a larger house but have more space? DC are 4 and 2 if that makes a difference.

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yoursworried · 25/10/2019 13:53

We're in a similar position and have decided to move. The kids will want more space as they get older and we bought the house we're in now as a step-up not a forever.
If you've had all your kids and are both working your salaries will increase over time and the mortgage payments won't seem so bad. I think it's worth going for the move

AudacityOfHope · 25/10/2019 13:57

We were in exactly your position and moved last week!

The house is much more spacious and definitely our forever house, but it also feels like hard work and a lifetime investment/commitment. The previous house was just simple to live in.

I'd go for it Grin

CactusAndCacti · 25/10/2019 15:16

Is there some kind of middle ground? We moved from a 3 bed to a larger 3 bed, despite top of the wants list being a 4 bed (DD sleeps in the garage conversion)

Is there any scope to extend/improve where you are now?

Neither of you are really wrong, however, if you are truly unhappy in the current property it is unlikely to get better. I spent 16 years in a house that I wasn't happy in. Moving was totally the best thing I did.

PurpleCrazyHorse · 25/10/2019 15:40

We are/were thinking of moving from a largish 3 bed to a 4 bed. Unfortunately the jump in cost is huge so we've decided to stay put and do a loft conversion. We hope to travel a bit as the kids grow up so we'd rather keep our mortgage manageable. However, our current house ticks quite a lot of our boxes already so we would only be moving to add an extra bedroom on the first floor and a bigger downstairs hallway.

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