Basically, I've recently lost some weight. Not a significant amount, roughly 2.5 stone. Most of it intentional but I've also lost some more due to various factors. Healthy BMI so not underweight or anything. I've gone from a 14 to an 8-10. All of this has been since the birth of my youngest baby 5 months ago.
I have a relative that I'm friendly with but haven't seen much as she was living away for work. She's recently moved back and so we've been hanging out lately. The first time we met, I'd lost most of the weight. Since then, I've had constant comments about it, saying I'm practically anorexic, I've wasted away to nothing, must be starving myself, if I lose any more that I'll disappear and so on. What's annoying/upsetting me is the fact she's also saying it to other members of the family and they've started querying whether I'm eating or not.
Before I lost the weight, I basically ate too big a portions and snacked in crap. I've changed nothing except smaller portion sizes and rarely snack. We eat well as a family and cook everything from scratch including pizza, bread, soup, pasta sauce, the odd pudding...I don't touch diet food, everything is full fat with plenty of fruit/vegetables, the odd treat and so on. When I go to visit family and they offer my chocolate/biscuits etc I don't want it so decline it, especially if I've not long had lunch. I'm now getting paranoid that people think I'm starving myself!
Relative who started the comments is quite overweight and lives off takeaway. Her choice and none of my business. I would never say anything to her about her weight yet she not only sees it as okay to comment on mine but also talk about it to other family members. How do I handle this? She's a bit sensitive at the moment as she's had a lot to deal with so I genuinely don't want to upset her but it's really starting to bother me. Especially when I know I'm eating well.