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Charity collectors ringing doorbell after 8.15pm...Acceptable or not??

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Elderflower14 · 24/10/2019 21:35

I live with my Mum and got home today after 3 days away.
Doorbell rang at 8.15pm. We both went to the door. Asked who it was. He said he was collecting for GOSH...We said no thanks and it was too late to be ringing bells.
Mum is in her 80s. She would have been scared if that had been last night. Lots of my FB friends have grumbled too.
In context I think GOSH are a fab charity just not keen on people ringing the bell on a dark evening.

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Confuseddotcotton · 24/10/2019 21:37

Charity door knockers any time of day piss me right off. But, 8.15 isn’t that late, and people can just ignore the bell if they wanted.

RoseHippy1 · 24/10/2019 21:37

Fuck no Id be furious ! If they woke my babies up I’d probably murder them. Far too late

Winterfellismyhome · 24/10/2019 21:38

Its a pisstake. I asked one before why they were knocking at 8 and he said he's allowed to do it until 9 Hmm

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Elderflower14 · 24/10/2019 21:40

I had a charity say the same to me last year. Have tweeted GOSH and grumbled...

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StopMakingATitOfUrselfNPissOff · 24/10/2019 21:41

I don't like it either. Too late for me

bigbluebus · 24/10/2019 21:44

Complain to GOSH - it's the only way to stop this ridiculous practice. I don't think anyone should be knocking on doors after dark without a previous arrangement.

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Elderflower14 · 24/10/2019 21:49

@bigbluebus I have tweeted GOSH... We have a few elderly people other than my Mum in the area. It's not fair.

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ExpletiveDEVILighted · 24/10/2019 21:50

it wouldn't bother me personally, doorbells never woke my babies either, but I do think its too late in general especially when its dark.

LolaSmiles · 24/10/2019 21:51

I don't think they should be allowed to door knock for donations at any time

Evenings are even worse

BrigitsBigKnickers · 24/10/2019 22:03

I don't get why, in this day and age , that charities think it's ok to knock on doors and expect people to just blindly hand over their bank details and sign up to direct debits like this.

I was accosted in the high st last week by a charity worker wanting me to sign up to something like this. It was a good cause and I would have been quite happy to have given them a £20 note but they said they don't take cash and wanted me to give my bank details for a direct debit and got really shirty with me when I said I don't ever do this.

8:15 is far too late to be knocking on people's doors.

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RachelEllenR · 24/10/2019 22:04

I don't think any time is good for them to knock but definitely not when it's dark. I had a DD to GOSH and cancelled it after the repeatedly knocked on my door and support a local charity instead with that money now who doesn't door knock!

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Elderflower14 · 24/10/2019 22:11

@BrigitsBigKnickers.My best friend had the same at the supermarket with a chugger for the local air ambulance.. Petered her to the point that she was scared to come out of the shop in case he launched himself onto her again..
She isn't on social media so I tweeted the charity and they rang her and are investigating!!

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stucknoue · 24/10/2019 22:13

Until 9 is ok. Many people don't eat in from work until 7. They don't know who is living there

OverByYer · 24/10/2019 22:14

Shouldn't be knocking on the door , full stop.
Disgusting, they know the elderly are likely to give out of politeness or fear. I give them short shrift if they knock on my door.
I give to a number of charities but this is not a legitimate means in my view

Awwlookatmybabyspider · 24/10/2019 22:15

Personally I don’t think they should be knocking on doors and invading people’s privacy and space at any time, so YANBU

57Varieties · 24/10/2019 22:15

YANBU. I don’t want to be doorstepped by randoms at any time but especially not when I’m trying to relax at home in the evening.

bigbluebus · 24/10/2019 22:20

The last one that knocked here was just rude and also lied. Thankfully DH answered the door to him and gave him short shrift. He was from St Johns Ambulance and DH (who works for a charity) was appalled by his attitude and complained to SJA. The same chap called at my elderly neighbour's house and got very shirty with her because she wouldn't take the chain off the door! WTF.

AnneElliott · 24/10/2019 22:22

I'd be annoyed too op - it's dark now at that time. I wouldn't expect older people /people on their own to answer the door at that time.

But I hate charity collectors at any time. The NSPCC collector got more than he bargained for a few weeks ago. I gave him a run down of the problems with the charity (been discussed on mumsnet) and his eyes nearly popped out of his head!

Leeds2 · 24/10/2019 22:26

I don't think charity collectors should ever knock on people's doors, uninvited. And 8:15 is way too late.

KatherineJaneway · 24/10/2019 22:28

They shouldn't ever go door to door in my opinion.

Bananalanacake · 24/10/2019 22:29

I just shout through the intercom "I am not allowed to answer the door to anyone except my landlord. if you need to speak to me you must get permission from my landlord via the lettings agents"
They give up after that.

Noroof · 24/10/2019 22:33

Nope
One knocked the other week at 830. I was home alone with 2 sleeping children. He kept banging the door... we can't see who is due to the safety glass so there is no way I'm opening it. Eventually I opened a window and hunted him.
All my neighbours are elderly as well. There should be a law against it.

BastardGoDarkly · 24/10/2019 22:36

I think you should be safe in your own home, from having to explain that you're not a tight uncaring bastard, just skint, usually followed by an apology 🤦‍♀️
I apologised to jehovah's witnesses by accident yesterday, and kicked myself for it all day.

Willow2017 · 24/10/2019 22:51

Until 9 is ok. Many people don't eat in from work until 7. They don't know who is living there

What a weird generalisation! Not everyone has a long commute working miles away from home.

If someone was banging my door at 8- 9pm hassling me for money they would get thier head in thier hands to play with. The very fact that they don't know who lives there is a good reason not to do it. The elderly and other vulnerable people could be very scared by this. How dare they put people in that position?

It should be banned at any time off the day. Nobody should be guilt tripped or bullied into signing up for payments to anything on thier doorstep. Charities claim innocence but they know that the people who do this are paid on how much they get from the public. The companies that employ them are ruthless and teach them to pester and guilt trip till they get a sign up.

It's a scandal that has been investigated for 20 yrs and they are still getting away with it.

InsertFunnyUsername · 24/10/2019 22:55

Time wouldn't be an issue for me but the reason they were there would. I really hate this and have been put on the spot so many times, I found it so hard to just shut the door over on a charity worker like DP and they rely on that, it's not right.

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