Has anyone tried 'gradual retreat' with their baby? Help!!

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I'm on night two of gradual retreat.
He's 10 months and wakes 6-20 times a night.
No he doesn't have CMPA. Yes he has reflux (that's a 20 wake up night if that's bad) but it's under control now and he wakes every sleep cycle. Probably caused by the initial reflux, so usually wakes 6-10 times a night.

I need to teach him to self settle.

We co-slept but it doesn't work for us at ALL.
Night one he is in his cot, no longer fed to sleep white noise, perfect nighttime routine and patted/shushed to sleep.

He woke 11 times.

Same last night.

I was thinking about the next stage of 'retreating' but I'm not sure how?? He seems pretty needy of the 'patting'.

If I just place my hand on his back he starts screaming and sitting up.

Has one done this who can tell me how they did it?
When did it improve?

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I’m afraid I have no wisdom to offer. But could you call your health visitor? Mine have very good advice.

*gave, not have!

Oh I feel for you, I had this with my DS years ago, I had co-slept for so long and fed him to sleep that he wouldn't settle without me. It was hard going for a bit, I'd let him cry but with me next to him and him in his cot. I then gradually moved slightly further away until I was out the door. It took some time but then he was okay and slept better tbf. I don't know if that's any help, or if you've tried it already. Good luck, it's awful not getting much sleep!

I tried just letting him with me next to him but after 2 hours of pure hysteria I gave up and vowed never again.

This is the gentle method and I feel it would suit him better. He's responding to being patted to sleep (as opposed to fed to sleep) very well!
It's just the constant waking and transition to the next stage of retreat...

When ds was 10 months I rang for a GP app. Told wasn't any. Told the receptionist either she found me one or I would leave ds in their pram park....
Sleep deprivation at its worst. Ds had basically lived in hospital all his life and had never been alone /in the dark.
Put him in the cot awake, cried and I went in after 10 seconds, built time up, not hysterical but crying. Told GP I couldn't do cio. Key was baby awake as he was put in the cot he said. No talking. No patting. Ds slept through after 3 nights. Weren't that tough nights either.
Was armed with flask and a book but wasn't as bad as expected...
Youngest ds I sent dh in with bottle of water after 3/4 bfs each night was killing me (9 months) slept through also third night.

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Night 5 and he woke 8 times

Can anyone else help that did gradual retreat?

I did it but not for so young a child. My daughter was 2 I think. It took forever but worked permanently.

I did for an older toddler too. She was old enough to stand up and try and get out and the pat was more of a "hold down".
I think carry on with more patting for the moment and move to slower patting.

Thanks. My mattress is next to his bed so I'm kinda doing exactly what you did at the moment.

Every time I look on YouTube or google examples it's always for a toddler rather than a baby!

Thanks for your posts.