Hi, my ex and I broke up in June after 5 years together, 2 kids, an engagement and we brought a house last year.
He dumped me because well he says he wasn't happy but he is already in a relationship so I think she was already there.
Anyway, over the last few weeks he has been really rude. I would try and set up what days and times he could see the kids but he would tell me that I am not dictating to him anymore when he can see the kids it's his way or no way basically.
I have recently got a solicitor involved but he went absolutely crazy, bringing up my past of post natal depression into it and how I would send him messaging of not coping with the kids etc.
I haven't done that in 6/7 months. And it was never an issue before but because I am seeking legal advice it is.
He has threatened that if he was to get the kids he wouldn't bring them back and I would loose them.
He also threatened to kick down the family home door so I had to get the police involved.
I never wanted this, I simply wanted something more stable in place for the boys and it turned into this.
This is a man I love and who I thought loved me. I'm am generally terrified and his family are taking his side in all and saying that because of my mental health problems he will get full custody. They think am doing this because he has a new girlfriend. This isn't true, I don't care if he a girlfriend or 5. All I wanted was a bit of stability and for him to not introduce his new girlfriend to the kids so early on if they are dating months even years from now happy days, involve them in our kids lives but not after 3 months.
All I know is am terrified and I hate how this has ended up. I actually wanted to have him in my life as a friend if possible but I feel like that ship has sailed. I hate that his family who I considered my own are hating me because he is telling them that I am being vindictive but if they knew the truth they might see things differently.
Has anyone been in this situation and will it ever get easier? I am out of our family home as I am scared he will break in and take the kids.