Vasectomy reversal and pregnancy over 35?

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Hi!
I had typed all of this up in conception but then changed my mind because it seemed Insensitive to post there plus I am not actually TTC yet. I hope it’s ok to post here!

I was just hoping for some opinions really.

We had our youngest child 4 years ago. Afterwards I caught pneumonia and was really unwell in hospital for a while. Nothing to do with being pregnant but tbh we panicked and at the time it felt like I would never be well enough to have another child. DH got a vasectomy.

Well now 4 years later I am obviously well again! And both of us regret it. We would like to add to our family. We know we would need to pay for a reversal and this isn’t a problem we have been quoted just over £3000 which is doable for us.

BUT

I am 36 now and by the time he had the reversal and healed - even if it did work which I know there is no certainty I would be 37.

I got pregnant very easily before (first cycle
Trying each time). But I have been reading horror stories now about how difficult it’s going to be and how high the risk of miscarriage is. I had healthy pregnancies before but I had to take medication for high blood pressure after the last one.

Anyway seriously is it crazy to do this?
Is 37 AND reversing a vasectomy too much?

Should we just give up and live with the mistake of the vasectomy?

What would you do!

No idea about reversal, is it always successful? I was 35 and it took me a couple of more months than with DD1 a few years before. I had a miscarriage first but I did before I got pregnant with DD1.

Are you fit and healthy?

Hormones - yes as far as I am aware I and fit and healthy 😄.

Also ask your mum when she went through the menopause. It’s a good indicator for when you will go through it too.

Hormones my mum died at 42 but hadnt started then . I have no idea about my grandparents but my mum was born when my grandmother was 41 (if that makes sense)

I have regular periods every 29 days at the moment. I don’t know much else apart from that though!

That all sounds very good.

I don't think 37 is crazily old for a second or third child; it seems pretty normal. No one can say how easy you'll find it or whether the vasectomy reversal will work, but it sounds like you want this and can afford to do it, so if your husband does too, get the wheels in motion.

I've known 3-4 people who have admitted to having a vasectomy reversed, and none of them have succeeded in having another child. However I've also know one whose vasectomy managed to reverse itself (apparently not unheard of) and the first they knew was sickness and a blue line.
I would say be realistic about your chances and consider how you will feel if you undergo it and then don't manage to have another child. Would that break your relationship?

Before you pay £3000 for a vasectomy reversal, why not get your AMH tested privately? That would be around £100, I believe. It’s a fairly accurate measurement of your ovarian reserve, ie how many eggs you have left.

It’s worth bearing in mind that while your mother’s age at menopause can be indicative of your own, my mum was 50ish and I started prematurely in my late thirties. Obviously this isn’t common but it does happen, and it ruined our hopes of another baby.

Starlings thanks! We are probably going to do that - thanks for letting us know ! It never occurred to me that it would be so easy to check!

I know I am currently ovulating regularly on day 12-14 of my cycle and have a luteal phase of 13 days (I tracked my temps for a couple months recently when we first started thinking about it ) but I would love to know how long that is likely to last for.

Witchend- I think both of us would
Be sad if it didn’t work BUT I don’t think it would affect our relationship too much at all.
We have been together 20 years and through some very sad and sometimes very strange things! I would be surprised if this was The think to break us.