I share a birthday with my mom. Her last birthday was a big one and invited the extended family for lunch to celebrate her. Something that happens rarely. I'm turning 30 and approached if I could borrow parents house to host a party (my building has silence at 10 and the flat is small). Could be on the actual day or week before or after. Parents say yes and we move on. Then my mom started talking abut how fun her party was and there would have been space to invite even more people. I agree and we chat a bit and that's that. Yesterday she makes a comment about how we might be having a big joint party together. I was too confused to respond.
This is not what I envisioned. I just wanted some friends, plenty to drink and snacks. I know the solution is to talk with my mom. My mom doesn't hijack things on purpose, but she genuinly thinks it would be fun and she looked so excited. But I wonder if there is a posibility that our joint party could be fun? Weddings have friends and family together and that is fun. Is there a good compromise?