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Scared of success not failure?

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Scaredtosucceed · 19/10/2019 19:34

I've looked everywhere and the concensus seems to be that people give up on TV ibgs because they are scared of failure.
I have deduced that I am scared of the opposite, I am scared of success.
When I was young I played a racquet sport and by far was the worst player in the club, I happily attended for about two years then one day I was entered into a tournament and won my age group. My coach said I was a 'dark horse' and had hopes for me now. I promptly quit.
Older teen, took up martial arts. Was thoroughly rubbish then started to improve, was named student of the month and never went back again.
Weight loss, running, keeping the house tidy, studying, work anything. If I start doing well, or if someone mentions it (ie I lost four stone someone said how great I looked and I promptly stopped slimming world)
I have no idea what I expect from this post, I feel it is a bit beyond MN to solve my obvious problems, but just wondered if it was just me or if anyone had any advice.

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Scaredtosucceed · 19/10/2019 19:35

Evidently I can't proof read either should say *give up on things. I do wish we had a minutes grace to correct typos.

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Itallt0omuch · 19/10/2019 19:36

I'm a bit like that. Makes me afraid to try things as to be good at it means I get noticed. I don't like being noticed.

InsertFunnyUsername · 19/10/2019 19:41

I know what you mean, il have a go at describing it but I'm not very articulate Blush

Being rubbish or average at something is "the safe zone" so you can take it as it is, no pressure etc. As soon as you feel good at something you then feel pressured to keep it up and like people are paying attention. That's what I think it is anyway. I loved gymnastics when younger and was actually good at it but I never liked to show it. So I would do the basics and enjoy it, then at home do more complex routines. Very strange.

TooMinty · 19/10/2019 19:54

I went on a management training course at work last week and "fear of success" is one of the things to look out for as a "demotivator". So it's a recognised thing and definitely not just you.

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