I have no interests

[SoLazy]

I've been like this my whole life.

Hate getting up, hate getting dressed. Can't be bothered to do anything. Have no hobbies or interests.

Have 3 secondary age kids which I do parent well (I think) and do a lot of stuff for.

I have a part-time job which, strangely enough, I do word hard at and go over and above.

I get home, can't be bothered to cook or do anything.

I want to change but don't know how, actually I do know how, get off my arse - but I just can't.....

The only things I enjoy are going on my phone and shopping.

I do take anti-depressants and have regular, rotten migraines but this just adds to it, not causes my laziness.

I hate this about myself.

Do you not like to read, craft, knit, bake or maybe something more active like running, hiking, visiting gardens or country park type places, volunteering, exercise classes, photography, something like that?

Do you manage to keep up with the house and washing? You say you can't be bothered cooking, what do you and the DC eat?

Although at that age, they should all be cooking one meal a week, maybe doing packed lunches between them and doing some of the housework/laundry or even helping with DIY.

Have you talked to your GP as to whether your anti-depressants are a the right dose/type?

Or do you think it could be a phone and/or shopping addiction and you should look to cut down on those, perhaps by finding more enjoyable things to do instead?

Everything you say is so right.

I do cook, I wash, I clean (albeit sporadically) the kitchen is cleaned every time it's used. The house is not dirty but I do not keep it as clean as I'd like as i find it so repetitive and boring.

This is not a new thing.

I have always been like this.

Have no desire to knit, bake or anything. I'm not addicted to my phone. I use it as a distraction.

Going through some money troubles (that can be sorted) so we don't do anything like going out to dinner or shopping - plus we have a child with mental health issues, so that is very draining.

I cannot read as I cannot concentrate on the words.

I feel like half a person.

I'm a bit like this - I actually have tonnes of interests and buy all the stuff but spend most of my time on the sofa with my phone or napping and then being very annoyed at myself.

A couple of things I've found that work (sometimes, not a miracle cure):

• If there's something I should or want to be doing but I feel lazy I set myself a 20 min window to do it and will stop after 20 mins. Anyone can do anything for 20 mins - it goes very quickly. I set a timer.

Best thing is that often once you've got started you often get into the flow and are happy to carry on for more than 20 mins but if not then you stop.

• Making a plan for the day. So splitting the day into chunks of time and what I'll do rather than a big blank day helps me.

In the interests of not being hypocritical I'm going to make a plan for my day now...

I dont I have any interests. In spring/summer I like cutting my grass and keeping the garden tidy. The rest of the year I am mainly reading things on my phone or watching movies when I am at home.

What did you like to do when you were a child/teenager before ault responsibilities?

Nothing! Watch telly, listen to music and read were the only things I did.

I suppose I went out with friends but I remember being bored even then.

I am boring and bored.

You say you don’t read but have you tried audiobooks? I listen to detective story audiobooks and radio plays on YouTube to get me through tedious household jobs. Occasionally I browse music on Spotify, the free version is rubbish on a phone but fine on a computer except you get the odd advert.

I am doing an evening class at college to try get me involved in learning something new. I am enjoying it but to be honest I will be happy when it is finished.