Ex having contact

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I posted recently about my ex having contact with my son and it not going to plan. I have now stopped contact and he has said that I should expect to hear from his lawyer. Does anyone know what the process from here could be like? He's not on the birth certificate and is currently in the process of being charged with a domestic abuse. How long could it be till he can get access? Could he fight for unsupervised time with our son or even over night stays in the near future?

I'm just panicking and would love some reassurance or advice.

I was advised to stop contact in order to make the ex initiate the court proceedings, meaning I could proceed alone without paying if need be (but I was still just inside the time when they allowed legal aid with domestic abuse - my ex wasn't charged at any point or I think I might have still received it, ongoing) and because going through court like that can help get a reasonable contact arrangement sorted, plus maintenance and so on.

It doesn't always work great. But sometimes it does. Your case is unique to you, none of us can tell you what will actually happen.

But it's a really good thing he's being charged for what he's done, that will help. I hope it's smooth for you.

How old is your ds?

@Singlenotsingle he's just turned 1

I doubt your ex will bother with all the hassle and expense. (Make sure you claim maintenance through the CMS). Your DS is too young for your ex to get overnight stays yet, especially if he doesn't see him very often. There will have to be mediation, so just explain to the social worker your reasons for not allowing too close contact.