Shittest thing someone has ever done to you

[madcatladyforever]

Well probably not the shittiest but some people have such low social skills you wonder how they get through life.
I was in labour in hospital with DS and exH got a phonecall from one of his university friends a woman called Louise, I knew her, she was an idiot so I didn't maintain contact.
ExH took the call and told her I was having the baby and she said can I stay at yours tonight as I'm in the area and haven't got anywhere to say.
Of course the idiot said oh ok instead of it's not convenient today.
Anyway off he went to pick her up from the station and didn't drop her off at our house he brought to her to the fecking hospital.
There I was in labour in agony having been induced and they are on the labour ward asking me stupid questions and talking about university.
Finally I said can you please fuck off now Louise as I'm clearly not in the mood for your banal chit chat and I just want to be alone with my husband for obvious reasons, she started crying and exH said look you've upset her now and they both went off only for him to reappear 24 hours later after the birth to tell me off for being so nasty to her that she had gone back home again [:-s]
I mentioned that he now and father and would he like to see his son, he took a look and pissed off again.
Not surprisingly we divorced very shortly after.

Wow @abbey44 I thought MY sister was a nasty piece of work. She's done a lot of shitty things to me but they are mostly quite petty so I didn't go into them

That’s horrendous abbey44

Went on holiday with boyfriend. Had been together for a year or two
He sat me down and asked in a romantic voice if I was in Love 😍
He then told me he was and her name was Kate (clearly not chickydoo) BASTARD!
That was 30 years ago. Lucky escape for me.

That'd be curtains for me, abbey

Christ almighty

My mum turned up in a&e saying she was scared of looking after my 7 year old as she might strangle him.
As a result I was investigated by Ss and we had to stop seeing her. When she ‘felt better’ she expected to be welcomed back

madcatladyforever I don't have a shitty tale to tell but yours is truly the shittiest. Yes, you are not wrong it thinking it is shocking and you are well rid of him.

A guy I was seeing and used to stay over at my house most of the time, packed his things and left while I was asleep. I woke up to him and everything belonging to him gone. It was probably the cruellest thing that has been done to me. That utter shock, bereavement?, disbelief, anger at myself for not waking up, his utter cunning. Nasty bastard.

Someone heavily persuaded me drop out of uni and take a job with them, it was a well paid job that would of majorly kicked off my career, let me travel the world, so I dropped out before my 4th year to take it. 6th months in they did something bad that got them in the newspapers for the wrong reasons, when I declined taking the fall for this, I was fired, told if I ask for a reference they would give me a terrible one and then decided to smear my name anyway to basically everyone even vaguely connected to that job or similar ones ensuring I couldn't get a job in that industry, all because they fucked up and did something that had zero to do with me. Fun times! It's been years and years now but I'm still angry about the injustice of how it all played out.

Abbey44 if this was a contest you would win.

Husband cheated last year - we’ve separated and going through a nasty divorce
I’ve had cancer Stage 4 and he kept telling me that I had changed (no shit Sherlock)
Yesterday he came round and put our DS to sleep in my bed and fell asleep with him
When he left he was saying the most absurd things that my health was causing DSs anxiety and when the child therapist told me that I started crying because I must have done something wrong to feel that guilty
The icing on the cake was his words
‘When you die I will have to pick up the pieces’
Wanker

Good grief, how long did you stay together with that prick?

My exh went home to sleep as soon as DS was born after I spent 27 hours in labour. A nurse told him he needed a rest because he looked exhausted he said. So I was left alone, keeping an eye on a baby who was chocking with own laringe, not quite out of the epidural therefore unable to walk myself to pick up breakfast from the trolley. He reappeared at night to tell me that he had spent the day wandering around town marvelled at the idea that he was now a father.

Sadly, that was just a small glimpse of what the next 5 years of my life would be and far from being the worse thing he ever did.

I think the one that affected me the most was being hired in the hospitality industry as secretary (committee run, no management) during a time when the premise was experiencing stock and cash theft. A security consultant was brought in, who proved a number of staff members were stealing funds, and the bar manager (mother of one of them) was gifting alcohol and palming back payment. During that time my duties were expanded to buying stock and monitoring cameras, cashing up bar takings and all banking. Bar Manager was asked to resign and bar staff went through the Court system. I worked the following Christmas Day and started management of the premise overall while security consultant brought in his own duty manager for the running of the bar. A contract bar manager was engaged who did a runner owing thousands and thousands to the premise. Again I was asked to keep the doors open and sorted out creditors with re-payment offers. Fast forward to the final 12 months of my employment, Committee had undergone major change and the incoming executive also started to help themselves to grog with one sleeping on-premises as too drunk to go home some nights. They, in turn, engaged bar staff who would have their own friends in after shift, turn the lights off and drink away. I was advised by a couple of clientele so checked out the cameras to confirm. We had appointed a new auditor who wanted proper electronic stock taking systems put into place which ultimately was sabotaged. From then on, the main executive would exclude me from all meetings (in my position of secretary) and also threatened that the bar staff would bring in the relevant union if I maintained access to cameras. He called in the security company responsible for cameras to change cabinet lock preventing my access and otherwise made my life very unpleasant, so I walked with no support from the remaining committee. Auditor stood down. Later I was to hear there was a bit of a smear campaign against me by that executive, and it took me a number of years to move on.

This is just the thread for me tonight. My 'boyfriend' was very much of the lines, 'we're not a couple'. So he went off and shagged someone tonight. So, we're not a couple.

Idiot in disguise are you asking me?

He couldn’t understand why I got severely depressed and anxiety after my cancer.
There’s so many stories
We were invited to his managers 60th and when I told him I was nervous as I have social anxiety as well he left without me
I had a panic attack which he called episodes and when I had a major one he just stood there and watched me. Ms son who was 7 comforted me and brought me some water

He called my ADs happy pills and that they weren’t doing the job as I wasn’t very happy

Being in the hospital with dyeing daughter, and he's trying to/did shag my then best mate.

38wineconnoisseur

No way! What a vile pair!

Left outside in the rain at a wake by people I thought were my friends. I had pneumonia at the time as it happened. Spent the night alone in hotel with stress inco, coughing till I vomited, while they whooped it up. Funnily enough I wasn’t cheery the next morning, friends bitched about me being miserable to the widow, who sent me a message saying ‘it’s not all about you’.
Thanks ‘friends’.

Malicious referral made about us to social services by a neighbour because we had to report them for their behaviour towards us... Still not past that one and they still live next door.

@KurriKurri I remember you posting about your husband at the time. I'm so sorry he put you through a difficult time over the divorce as well. It must be painful that your adult children still even want to have a relationship with him after all that .

There's been a lot of competition for shittiest thing done to me recently.

One in particular: I had to find somewhere to live with my two month old baby. I was abroad at the time and the relationship with the father had broken down badly. I found a flatshare with a woman who seemed perfect - child-friendly, non-smoker, clean, lift in building, etc. I already vaguely knew her. It seemed to be going fine for a couple of months.

Then she accused me of bringing men back to the flat for sex. She claimed to have stood outside my bedroom door and listened to me having sex with them. She had also heard me typing on my laptop, which she decided was the sound of me sexting .

She text me saying that she was getting home from work at 1am and I had to leave then. She had told my baby's father about my supposed liaisons and told me I had to stay with him. Baby's father was furious. I freaked out, fled the flat with my daughter, who was now four months old, and stayed in a hotel. The woman threw all of my and my baby's possessions into bin liners and changed the lock on the door. A friend had to go round with their car and pick the stuff up for me.

I had never had anyone round to the flat, for sex or otherwise. I honestly don't know what the fuck her problem was. I'm still baffled by what happened.

54quincejamplease

@oabiti why such an unnecessarily mean post?

Some of these are so shocking to you all. So many people behaving so badly.

My in laws were looking after my children during my mother's funeral. (Which I did appreciate.)My husband was meant to pick them up after the service and bring them to join us at the wake. I felt they were too young to be at the actual funeral but I really wanted them to come to the wake, partly because I wanted them to be involved in some way in saying goodbye to their grandma, partly because there were some more distant relatives there who had not met my children and said they would like to, partly because I thought them being there would lighten the mood a bit and my Mum would have liked that, and partly because I was, believe it or not, feeling a tad emotional and actually really needed my family around me.
But when DH went to collect them they weren't in. ILs had taken the children out. When DH finally managed to find them they were in a play area and his mother wouldn't let him take them because they were having fun and she didn't think they should have anything to do with the funeral.
So I was left at the wake with no husband and no children, with the relatives who had travelled long distances eventually having to leave without seeing them. I didn't have my phone with me so couldn't contact DH. In the end there was just me and the ladies from the Church who had done the food left. They were very apologetic but said they had to lock up and go. I then spent about half an hour stood outside in the pouring rain waiting as everyone else had left and DH was supposed to be driving us home afterwards. It is years ago now but I am crying thinking about it even now. My children should have been with me, my husband should have been with me and she prevented it. My mother's funeral was of no consequence and my family were shown no respect. My grief was compounded by hideous embarrassment and anger. Who expects to end up abandoned and alone at their mother's funeral because their MIL thinks a fucking soft play session is more important.
My MIL has said and done a lot that upsets me over the years but I have learned to let most of it go over my head. But I will NEVER forgive her for this.