Want to leave my job

[ChurchillNotTheDog]

Please be gentle as I really don't feel ok at the moment

I am desperate to leave my job but feel terrible about it. I have an incompetent boss who takes pretty much all the credit for my work, I am running myself ragged working over and above all my hours despite working from home, the whole organisation is last minute about everything resulting in huge stress for me, and in general I am underqualified to do the job. My mental health is suffering. My notice period is 3 months. I really want to just leave and have some time off with my toddler but I'm worried if I do that I'll never get back into work. DH earns a good salary and is happy for me to be at home but I feel like a burden.

Just generally feel terrible about the whole thing. I've looked for other jobs and will apply for things with fewer hours but I don't think any of them will wait 3 months for me. But quitting my job without another job to go to just feels stupid. I can't stop thinking it is stupid of me to give up a relatively well paid job - what if DH becomes ill and can't work?

Anxiety is terrible at the moment and I just feel generally horrific and can't see the wood for the trees.

I stayed in a job and was so stressed I threw up every morning, I did this for about 3 years.Then I had a breakdown, then I left.
2 years on I am a different person, happier and employed.
No job is worth your health, just leave, I know it’s scary but if your Husband is supportive you are halfway there.

Can you say what type of work you do?

I don't think 3 months for a new employer would rule you out completely as it depends on the role. A good company will look at the person and decide if they are a good fit, timeframe may come second.

Start applying for roles as once you are in a downward spiral it affects your morale and may impact how you come over at interview.

I would recommend staying in work however irrespective of your husbands income as getting back into a role once you are off is much more difficult.

Your anxiety will resolve itself when you're not getting tortured every day. Do you work in an industry where you could go self employed for a while and pick up some freelance work?

I work for a charity and could probably pick up some freelance work in the interim.

The job itself I like but the organisation is just so ineffective and haphazard. You cannot get hold of our CEO after 2pm. A major report that needs doing has landed on my desk due to a cock up higher up, and said CEO is taking 2 weeks annual leave and leaving me to do the entire thing.

I just don't want to do something rash. But it's making me unhappy for so long, and I have kept hanging on hoping it will change.

I just don't want to do something rash. But it's making me unhappy for so long

If it has been ongoing for a long time then it isn't rash. If the CEO is chaotic then it comes from the top and unlikely to change.
All I would say is don't give up work as women definitely suffer after a career break.

Your current employer may also agree a reduced notice period..get a new job first and worry about the start date when it happens.