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I got rid of all my social media

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jamoncrumpets · 16/10/2019 16:05

I got rid of Facebook a few months ago and really didn't miss it.

Instagram I used frequently, storying several times a day and posting every day. I had about 800 followers. On Monday something in my brain just went 'What are you getting from this, really?' and I deactivated my account.

I became heavily dependent on my phone when I was pregnant and caring for my autistic DS at home full time. It was my window to the world. At the time SM would have been my lifeline and I'd have panicked at the idea of deleting my accounts.

I've noticed I'm more present with my kids than I have been before, but my anxiety is also a bit higher. I had a friend round for a cup of tea today, where I would normally be in and on my phone interacting people that way.

I don't really know why I'm sharing this. Has anyone done the same? Did you keep it up?

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Glitterb · 16/10/2019 16:17

I deleted my facebook, twitter and linkedin, I have kept my Instagram but got rid of the rest. I found facebook was full of people just filling my feed with boring shares and likes! I recently changed jobs and no longer have to manage corporate accounts so don’t need a personal one either, feels great!

jamoncrumpets · 16/10/2019 16:25

The Instagram one has been the hardest to let go, but weirdly I don't miss it that much now. It was all just starting to feel very shallow and I noticed more and more people I follow trying to turn themselves into influencers.

I don't miss the people I interacted with every day. The people I love are the people I message on WhatsApp. I definitely will not be getting rid of WhatsApp!

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jamoncrumpets · 16/10/2019 16:26

I don't have Twitter either. That went over a year ago.

I wish I'd done this earlier tbh.

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Ellabella989 · 16/10/2019 16:28

I got rid of Facebook and Twitter a few years ago and don’t miss them at all. I still have Instagram and want to wean myself away from it as it’s a bit of an addiction (god knows why as I don’t actually care about most of the people I follow on there). Could never get rid of WhatsApp as that’s how me and my family stay in touch.

SchrodingersMeowth · 16/10/2019 16:31

I deleted a 10k Instagram. Although have kept one with 800 odd but use it sparingly, it does help with my anxiety to keep the smaller one just to see what people are up to when I’m anxious.

Don’t use Facebook anymore.

My Son has autism too, social media tends to piss me off with the whole “autism moms are superheroes” crap.

jamoncrumpets · 16/10/2019 16:32

I suffer from health anxiety and was following quite a few accounts of people with chronic or terminal illnesses. I have always had a somewhat morbid curiosity about illness, and would find myself becoming very embroiled in their world. In really dark times I would convince myself that I had terminal illness too and would end up like them.

I am very glad that these accounts exist, but for people like me it's really not a good idea to follow them.

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RossPoldark · 16/10/2019 16:32

The only one I have is FB and to be honest I think on balance it's a positive in my life. I have it whittled down to just nice friends and family so it's a slow-moving feed but very rarely anything that I don't like.

It's MN I wish I could quit Sad I find this place so bad for my anxiety but also interesting and addictive.

Twitter and Instagram I could never get my head round and don't have any desire to have.

jamoncrumpets · 16/10/2019 16:33

Really interesting @SchrodingersMeowth - I wonder if I should re-sign up and limit myself. I don't know if I have the self discipline though.

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lazylinguist · 16/10/2019 16:34

I did this for a while. But the thing I actually need to ditch is MN, because I spend far more time on here than on FB and Instagram put together! I actually have a pretty non-problematic relationship with FB and Instagram. Never had Twitter - it doesn't appeal tbh.

RossPoldark · 16/10/2019 16:35

Snap lazylinguist!

SchrodingersMeowth · 16/10/2019 16:37

@jamoncrumpets I find the smaller account easier to manage, it can be hard to limit myself sometimes but I set screen limits on my phone for social media to keep it at bay because too much of it can make my anxiety worse.

I have an illness and I mainly use it to get watch the community that is related to it and post occasional day to day things on stories.

I limit myself to 2 stories in any day though as too many make me anxious about if I’m annoying people.

SchrodingersMeowth · 16/10/2019 16:37

And yes, I spend much more time on MN and it’s actually probably here that I should limit!

jamoncrumpets · 16/10/2019 16:42

I think I am going to give the Instagram thing a week and see how I feel on Sunday night as to whether I leave it deleted, reinstate it in full or reinstate it with fewer followers

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OkayGo · 16/10/2019 16:48

I got rid of Facebook, Twitter and LinkedIn years ago. I have an Instagram but it's limited to 50 followers all of which are family and people I know in real life. Because I don't follow many people it's not very interesting so I hardly use it. I should stop using mumsnet really, that's the only thing that I spend my time on.

AgathaMystery · 16/10/2019 16:52

I got rid of FB in 2010 when my daughter was born as I don't want her images online.

Twitter went 8 weeks ago after a particularly nasty comment from a colleague. This was a shame as I loved twitter.

Instagram I enjoy so for no, it stays.

I don't miss FB or Twitter at all.

MrMumble · 16/10/2019 16:56

I've just deleted Twitter for the second time. I find it awful, really affects my mental health. I'd managed to keep this latest account for ages just for keeping up with local accounts, exhibitions and stuff but then posted in a debate (I know I shouldn't!) and the pile on is just awful. It's so easy for people to be hurtful and I hate how you get the notifications saying that people have liked posts where someone is being a bit mean to you. Definitely not getting another account. I like Instagram though, although I've never posted, just follow anything to do with food!

twilightcafe · 16/10/2019 16:59

But MN counts as social media.

flippyflapper · 16/10/2019 17:01

I have facebook and Instagram, i really want to get rid of facebook but i have school class groups on there and is so useful for parties, events and things i always forget. So i have literally downsized hugely.
I always find that im constantly on my phone i need to stop this

Yeahthatthing · 16/10/2019 17:05

At the beginning of the year I deactivated my MN account. It actually made a huge difference to how present I was with my family. I recently made a new account and I'm already beginning to regret it. I'm on it constantly. I don't have the same issue with Facebook, which is the only SM I'm on.

jamoncrumpets · 16/10/2019 17:15

I actually find posting on MN much less stressful than posting on Instagram because nobody knows any personal details about me such as where I live, kids' names etc.

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thespellhasbeenbroken123 · 16/10/2019 17:22

You've given me the boost I need to delete them
Another day pretty much wasted on my
Phone

Not sure I could delete mumsnet tho haha

firstimemamma · 16/10/2019 17:22

Got rid of Facebook years ago. Don't miss it one bit! Liberating! I tried once to get rid of Instagram but couldn't work out how to and gave up!

AliceLittle · 16/10/2019 17:26

I don't see an advantage to getting rid of social media I just use it for different purposes. Facebook is for keeping in touch with friends and being part of groups of a certain theme. Twitter I use to follow news and businesses so I know whats going on in my local area. Instagram I follow art feeds rather than people characters trying to influence my shopping habits.

Ravenrob · 16/10/2019 17:32

I got rid of Instagram earlier this year due to spending far too much time on it. I sometimes miss it but I'd never make another account.
I kept Facebook but I only have a small number of family and close friends on there. I don't post too much or too often.
I have Twitter to follow my son's school and occasionally scroll through the trending page.
My life feels a lot more private than it used to.

Sagradafamiliar · 16/10/2019 17:39

I'm only on Instagram. I was starting to think the world was full of knobheads and bigots going by my FB feed so I don't miss that one bit. It was maddening.
Twitter doesn't appeal.
I don't really engage with Instagram, I would never do a story I don't think, but I like photos and get style inspo.

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