Ectopic pregnancy

[Mumof1bg]

I found out I was pregnant 1 week before my missed period, me and my other half were over the moon, but 3 weeks later after loads of scans and bloods I found out my baby was ectopic, I have a 2 year old baby girl with c.f and and had to terminate a pregnancy last year because there was a chance of another baby with c.f,. A new drug for c.f became available to make her life better and less chance of not being unwell anymore so this pregnancy we were really wanting, I feel like my ectopic happened because I terminated my pregnancy last year, I had been given methotrexate but I have to wait 3 months before ttc, the thought of waiting 3 months is killing me as I just want to be pregnant with my baby again. I think it would help to see if other people are in my position and get some advice.

I’m so sorry.
I’ve lost several pregnancies. We had to terminate one baby at 12 weeks as it wouldn’t survive, our daughter was still born at 22 weeks and had an ectopic that ruptured.
I remember that feeling of desperately wanting to be pregnant, 3 months will fly by, use that time to heal and prepare.
Xx

I had an ectopic many years ago, and a miscarriage and a missed miscarriage. I don't know what caused them - just bad luck I suspect - but I do know I found different ways to blame myself for each of them.

I wouldn't think your termination caused your ectopic. Ectopics just happen, and anyone can get one whether they have had a termination or not. so please don't be hard on yourself, concentrate on getting well so you can try again for a baby.

Was your ectopic in your one of your tubes ? I had surgery to remove a fallopian tube, two years on I had a baby girl.
You will need time to recover from your ectopic, and I know 3 mnths seems a long time when you are desperate to try again, but in the big scheme of things it is best to wait until you have recovered and your body is well again.

Have you got anyone in RL you can talk to? I think because it involves surgery (and life saving surgery at that) that people forget it is a lost baby and treat you more as someone who has had an operation than someone who has suffered a pregnancy loss.

If you are finding this all difficult to cope with (and it is hard) I would talk to your doctor, see if there are any support groups, that might be helpful for you. I know I felt differently with each of my losses and often it helps to talk to someone who has had a similar experience to you.
I wish you all the best, and hope your little girl is keeping well

Kurrikurri its horrible that us women have to go through these things, yeah the baby was in my tube, I was 6 weeks so I was able to be treated with methotrexate as the baby was still small, on day 4 of the drug I had my bloods done and my hormone was still rising, pain got more intense so I was on high alert for a possible rupture, then on day 7 with more bloods it had dramatically dropped, I really hope the drug works as I dont want to loose my tube and half my chances of trying again, i am on day 11 of methotrexate, it's horrible that you are sat in a hospital room and they give you 2 choices, 1 to have the operation or 2 methotrexate but you dont want to go through either.

I have my family and partner to talk to but my family just say I am lucky that it was caught soon enough and that I didn't have surgery. I just need someone who has been though the same to talk to, that understands.xx

I will try talk to my doctor but right now all I can think of is getting to January and trying again
Molly29 that must have been so hard, sorry that had happened to you xx

Oh that must have been very tough for you Mumof1bg It sounds as if the drug has worked for you - I hope so (I think mine was too late - I wasn't offered the drug - but as I say it was many years ago. maybe the drug wasn't available then)
It's hard when folk say 'at least you avoided surgery' - because you are thinking of the baby you lost and wanted so much.

I'm keeping my fingers crossed for you that the methotrexate does it's job and you are soon well again. Look after yourself my dear and I hope very much that things go well and you are able to try for another baby in the New Year. xx

I had an ectopic pregnancy 7 years ago now. Caught it too late to save the tube so it has to be removed. However, I managed to get pregnant a few months later with absolutely no trouble at all. I know it’s so hard, but I echo what everyone else says about the 3 month wait - use the time to get your body healed and emotionally try to recover a little. If it helps, and I don’t know if it’s true or not, but I was told that an eg can travel around and use the intact tube so it’s not like your chances of a future pregnancy are halved if you only have the one tube.
Be kind to yourself though, it’s tough on you emotionally and physically

I need help ! Please tell me if it is possible to have implantation bleeding with ectopic pregnancy?
I am just trying to figure out if I had implantation bleeding at 10DPO and therefore I am at 6 weeks with low Hcg and empty uterus ( aka ectopic) or did I have a light period and now I am only 2/3 weeks pregnant and therefore it's just a normal early pregnancy... very scared...