Do your DC often use your phone (e.g to play candy crush) just before bed?

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I was at a esafety thing yesterday.

OMG eye opening and terrifying but one of the big messages was that things we do to try and keep our kids safe are ineffective and maybe even counter productive.

E.g. 6yos were well aware of ways round parents who turn the Wi-Fi off at night - you just set up the hot spot on mum's phone before you go to bed.

Don't let your young child have a phone? No problem they've probably "found" an old one of yours. It doesn't matter that it has no sim, they only use it with the Wi-Fi anyway.

Have they ever been in the neighbours' house? In that case their devices are automatically logging into their Wi-Fi, if yours is off or too restricted.

It was shocking, really young children and not just a few of them, knew all the tricks.

Doesn't matter if you remove devices from rooms at bedtime. No devices no internet.

Agree no devices in bedroom at night my kids know they are not allowed them with them at night

Turn off the chat on Roblox and they'll almost certainly be using Diablo or some other unregulated platform to chat with other players.

And the worst, for me, if as a parent, your reaction is to remove the device if they break your rules, they wont tell you when they get approached by a "weirdo " in a game, which btw, they were all very aware of.

No mine can’t get on at all. We only have a couple days f devices and they don’t know the passcode to any of them. I don’t mind if they have a good play on them during the day but no screens after 6/6.30.

See above re "old" devices NewName. Ive never allowed devices in rooms but I did find an old cracked phone charging behind Ds's bed. Who knows how long it had been there. They're clever, they're very easy to come by with the regularity with which adults change their phones.

We have three family iPads but all passworded. We know exactly who’s on what and when. iPad use only on Fridays to Sundays and only in family rooms.

The main message of the training was that its impossible to have proper controls and those smug parents (like me) who think they all have it under control are actually putting their DC at greatest risk because they're not talking to DC about what they're really doing online and DC are least likely to take any concerns about what's happening online to them, for fear of being banned themselves.

Never. They're 7 and 4 and the only internet they have access to at home is Netflix on the main telly and never use my phone or the family tablet.
Not because of any great moral objection but that's just our lifestyle- DH and I aren't gamers and it wouldn't occur to us to sit down to play games.

My kids aren't allowed to play on my phone at all, but then they're only 3 and 6. I have gone through how to make an emergency call on a locked mobile with my 6 year old though, several times. We will play computer games and xbox games with my 6 year old too, I feel it's important to be open and instructive about internet security, particularly from a young age. I'd rather he learned to use a computer from me and had his eyes open to keeping himself safe than learning it from a friend with no knowledge to help himself with.

Luckily schools in Norway are pretty on when it comes to teaching kids to safely use computers and the internet, they've already started on it in class in year 1 and talk to parents about it at the start of each school term.

When my kids do get their own phones.. I have no idea when that should be, maybe when he's 7 and starts walking home from school alone. We don't have a landline so I'd like him to be able to make an emergency call if necessary, he won't be allowed the phone from an hour before bed time just to give his brain time to calm down.