Not me - my partner. We have lived together for around 3 years and I am massively struggling with his outbursts which are stemmed from his anxiety and OCD around things being locked and switched off. 1 question about is a door shut leads to him repeating himself multiple times when we are both settling down going to bed which then erupts into massive full blown arguments. I answer the first time and get increasingly annoyed the more he repeats himself which then stems into him accusing me of not listening to him. I dont know how to help him anymore and he refuses to go and see anyone. Some examples .
When he comes in from being out he pulls on the front door repeatedly for around 5 minutes whether its 11pm or 2am. He knocks on the drawers next to his bed to check they are closed.. again irrespective of time. He cant cope with us being sat downstairs and a window being open upstairs. These are all things that if he lived alone wouldn't bother him but I am there too, having my sleep disrupted and also starting to feel increasingly anxious around bed time when all these questions start. My other problem is when an argument starts he completely over reacts. I get so much verbal abuse sometimes it is exhausting. "Are you stupid, we aren't leaving that door open", "you are thick leaving the keys in the back door". Just some examples! He is actually a very nice person but not when his anxiety and OCD takes over. I mainly needed to just rant but if anyone can offer any advice I would be so grateful.