Early pregnancy sucks

[Loola22]

So this is my first post I joined because I am the first out of my friends to be pregnant so theres not really anyone I can talk to who knows what Im going through. Me and my partner were so happy when we found out but I did not expect early pregnancy to be this awful 😫 No one warns you! The sickness, being hypersensitive to smells the exhaustion really takes the excitement out of the pregnancy. I am about 8 weeks I have been so sick that for the last 2 weeks I have not been able to do anything but lay down, the moment I stand up im sick. I finally went to the doctors and they have given me anti-sickness tablets but these just make me more exhausted. A lot of people say it wears off around 12 weeks but any tips on how to get through 4 weeks? Iv had to take time off work but I am due to go back tomorrow I don't know how I am going to manage 🙁 I feel ungrateful that im not enjoying being pregnant but its so hard when I feel this bad.

It gets better! Take it as easy as you possibly can, sleep at all opportunities. Make your partner take on the brunt of chores and such, your job right now is to feel better.

I have no idea if it'll help you, everyone is different, but during the first weeks of sickness I could stave it off by almost constantly eating, so I'd take these huge boxes of chopped up sweet peppers and cucumbers to work.

Aghh bless you. I've had two babies. They are four and one. I felt quite down in the dumps when I was in this stage. It does suck. Especially as you feel like you have a stomach bug all day every day. I felt queasy all day. I used to lie down with dry biscuits to munch on or bread sticks. I barely left the house! When I was pregnant with my son I remember just muddling through the days trying to look after my two year old. By 12 weeks it did improve. I had a few good days between 9 and 12 weeks. I did not feel fully past it until 16 weeks though personally. I was exhausted.

It's just one of them things where you need to wake up and deal with the day the best to can. If you are able to stay home and rest then do it. Sleep more. Lie down more. Eat little and often. Find a drink that you find refreshing. Try find something to watch to distract you. No that each day you will be closer to your placenta taking over and the hormones balancing out

Also I used to look at prams and clothes online to cheer myself up and remind myself why I was doing it. I feel for you so much as I found it really hard. You will soon be having a scan etc. Feel free to chat to me if you want to talk more. Xx

I agree with previous poster I nibbled alot to keep hunger at bay. Seemed to work. X

@Loola22

I could have written this! I’m mid twenties (first of social group to get pregnant) and NOBODY warned me! Not even my Dr DH 😒!

I’m 16 weeks today and I HATE pregnancy! It’s not what I was expecting at all and by the time I realised I felt trapped, out of control of my body and unable to do anything about it. I had HG from my first positive test right up to 14w and was so isolated/depressed/miserable.

My advice, do not go back to work tomorrow. They give no prizes for pushing through it and you’ll simply exhaust yourself and then be off again in a few days feeling guilty! I’ve been signed off for 12 weeks and am ‘just’ about to go back (I think). I felt awful at first but then you learn to embrace it and understand that what is happening to you is not your fault!

In my experience the nausea gets better...the exhaustion gets worse and in between you get periods of cramps/trapped wind/heart burn/adverse smells that are barely tolerable! I also have hyper salivation which means I carry a spit bowl/towel around with me wherever I go (if I swallow it I vomit 😬).

Oh and you get trapped between symptoms, for example; my meds made the nausea better but trapped wind and heart burn unmanageable. I have to sleep propped up to avoid vomiting in the night but it makes my hips SUPER painful! You can’t win- pregnancy is THE WORST!

I know it won't make either of you feel better but you have so many lovely things to come after this horrible part. Hang on in there. By 20 weeks I had a bump, energy and was shopping able to enjoy my life again. Sadly pregnancy has horrible side effects for many women. I went to a male gp and told him how awful I felt and asked for something for the ms so I could feel better for my toddler. He smiled and said you just sound anxious. I thought yes and so would you be if you felt too sick to function for your small child. It can feel very lonely. I never went back to work. Id if been useless as I was a carer and would of been unable to take care of them

Sorry to be the bearer of potentially bad news but I'm 25 weeks and still feel rotten and still being sick multiple times a day. It's my first pregnancy and I too was so excited to be pregnant, before I was. Now I'm just waiting for it to be over!

My advice would be that coping with it gets easier as you learn your own "routine", what food/drink helps and what doesn't. Go back to gp and see if there are alternative meds you can try - the ones I'm on do actually give me some good albeit temporary relief which allow me to function and I believe there isn't just one type out there.

As one of pp's said take it easy. There are no prizes for pushing yourself through it and pregnancy can be really really tough. Take the time you need and just relax as much as you can.

I really hope it gets better for you in the second trimester op!

Urgh sounds like its just a matter of waiting it out, its so nice to talk to ppl who understand no one I know has had anything that comes close to this sort of sickness and your right its quite lonely Its hard not to get down about it. Thank you for your nice posts 😊

@DisneyMadeMeDoIt
Thanks for you advise I honestly dont think im ready to go back to work so it might have to just wait. Im just not up to it.

Its really hard I feel like pregnancy has completely changed my personality before I always was busy, loved food happy most of the time now im upset, cant do anything and feel sick all the time. At the moment im fighting against it maybe it would be better if I accepted feeling rubbish and just waited it out.

I guess I expected to feel bad just but this bad. This is something else 😭 just praying that 2nd trimester it gets better 🤞🤞

@Loola22 I am 12 weeks and know exactly how you feel, I'm afraid it hasn't let up for me yet but I'm hoping it passes soon.

This is my 4th pregnancy and I don't ever remember feeling this bad with the others. I have had to carry on with work as I am self employed and don't get paid if I don't work. These last 7 weeks have been the hardest of my life.

I have my scan tomorrow and I am hoping seeing the baby will help me feel better so to speak .

@Loola22

I totally understand this - it’s like having the rug pulled out from under you. I was a happy, busy, sociable 26 yo and now I’m essentially a prisoner in my own body! That’s how it feels.

I don’t enjoy anything anymore as feel pants. I’ve gone from being strong, independent and capable to frail, dependant and needy - sat waiting for DH to come home and too exhausted to run errands..etc
If I miss a med/ don’t eat the exact right thing within minutes of feeling hungry I vom! 😂 I’m not even sure I’ve ‘gotten better’ - just ‘gotten better at managing it’.

And in amongst all that other people are thrilled you’re feeling crap (because it’s a baby) and EVERYONE is getting to enjoy your pregnancy more than you!

I don’t feel like me anymore - I’m just a walking incubator! Sorry that’s not cheerful - it does get better as you go into second trimester but I would sensitively suggest you limit your expectations!

Everyone told me the same thing and I held onto the dream of suddenly being ‘better’
When 12 weeks came and I felt the same- just a tad less sick, I was pretty gutted!