Just found out dd2(13yrs) has been playing ding dong ditch(knock down ginger/knockadoor run) after school when walking home with her friends

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I am fuming, I thought she had more sense and was trusting her to walk home. We have spoken to her and said we are not happy with her and that if there are any more incidents that we hear about she will not be allowed to walk home or go out with these friends until we feel we can trust her.

We found out when she told her older sister this evening and are wondering if she told her because she was uneasy about it

No, we didn't all do this as kids - some of us were raised to have consideration for others, and our families would have made our lives not worth living for even considering doing something so stupid & thoughtless.

I have a 13 year old, and I have told her pretty clearly that if she ever behaves inappropriately, that I will assume she cannot be trusted to walk alone, and I will be walking her to school & collecting her, from the gates. Given not one parent does this, that was enough warning!

I do like the previous posters idea about knocking on her door at 5am, and then running away - see how much she likes it. Maybe not the most mature thing to do, but certainly would be the punishment fitting the crime.

I had this regularly happen to me for a while 2 years ago, they'd ring the doorbell lots and only start running when I opened the door, so if I ignored it they'd stand their constantly pressing the doorbell. I ended up getting a stick up ring camera and telling the school about it which stopped it.
I didn't do it as a kid and as an adult I found it a bit intimidating.

There are some idiots about.

No we didn't all do this as kids!

My parents were far from perfect but they drummed into me from an early age about consideration for others, and getting your kicks from using other people as the butt of your jokes is just plain mean.

Some of the posts remind me of the numpties who say things like 'ahh well, boys will be boys' err no. it's not ok, or a right of passage.

I'm another who didn't do this as a kid - my parents would have been less than impressed and I would have been in big trouble for doing it. I was an 80's kid and it wasn't the done thing where I lived.

My eldest is 13 - if we found out he was doing this, he would be grounded. If if he wants to act like an immature kid then clearly he's too immature to be out without an adult with him.

Seriously, are you not just a tiny bit grateful she isn't shoplifting and getting drunk?

Sheesh, can we set the bar a little bit higher?!

I'm not from around these here parts, so don't know of it, and definitely didn't do it. If I had, it would have been a toss up who gave me the arse kicking - the recipient or my parents. Most probably both. If I found out my kids had been doing it, I'd be unimpressed to say the least. And walking them to and from school until they promised never to do it again - with a big kiss and hug at the school gates from Mumsy to boot!

Off with her head!

It doesn’t MATTER if you did this when you were a kid, or you think it’s normal for kids to do it. You still bollock YOUR kids when they do it. I got absolutely wankered on cheap vodka when I was 16, that’s a fairly ‘normal’ thing to do - you can be assured if DD does it I won’t be chuckling indulgently and patting her on the head.

And if you’re an adult now and still think it’s an amusing thing to do, you’re a complete dick.

Some people always think this is finr without considering that for an elderly or infirm person this could be a serious inconvenience and could even result in a fall if they are rushing to get to the door.

As for the 'who didn't?' brigade- I didn't and my friends didn't either because we had basic empathy and a scrap of common sense.

if you don't want her to grow up into some of the horrible adults on here, make it clear this is really really shitty behaviour. And also what a saddo - is that the only way she can think of to amuse herself?

if she is being bullied into it, help her get out. If she is doing it voluntarily, then a serious telling off until she is in tears and a suitable punishment is called for.

hopefully one victim of this will be waiting upstairs with a bucket of cold dirty water. Serve her right if they are.

I've maybe lived a sheltered life but I've never heard this game called that 😂

Didn’t we all?

Nope. It is, and always was, a wankerish thing to do. Whether you were 6, 16, or 66.

If anyone on here still thinks it's a 'kids will be kids' issue- never, never complain about 'the kids today'. You made them. You indulgently rolled your eyes as your children potentially terrorised local elderly or vulnerable people.

Someone needs to grow up, and it may be you.

It’s not remotely normal to be knocking on doors and running away sniggering at the age of 13! Around 6 years too late, I’d say.
And as for the poster who cautioned you to just be grateful she’s not shoplifting and getting drunk 😵
Flabbergasting. No wonder there are so many little shites roaming the streets.

She's 13 and doing this?

I am surprised by how many have said that it's just one of those things that kids do, I would have dared to do it, my dm would have had my guts for garters if I had!

If she had been younger I wouldn't have been so mad but at 13 she should know better.

She knows we're disappointed in her and that any further incidents and she will be grounded.

I wouldn't have dared do it