Please, I need advice and I don't know where to turn.

[Loopylou6]

My DH has had a problem with alcohol since he lost his dad a few years ago.
A few months ago I had an accident which meant I needed to be cared for, because of this he had to take leave from work. The alcohol consumption crept up to daytime drinking, and a few months ago he started acting strange, I thought he was depressed, he became confused, very sleepy, sometimes a bit, well, almost manic.
This resulted in him having a tonic clonic seizure, the most frightening thing I've ever witnessed.
The hospital put it down to alcohol withdrawal, when I'm pretty sure it was actually excess alcohol.
He improved, but I remained terrified that it was gonna happen again.
Fast forward to now, he's cut down, but I've been finding little bottles stashed round the house, he's acting weird again. He won't go out, won't eat, sleeps all the time, seems very distant, and just isn't himself.
He refused to go to his neurology apt a few days ago, and rescheduled for later this month.
I'm living everyday in terror that he's gonna seize again, i suffer terribly with MH issues myself, and i feel unable to cope anymore.
Im watching his every move, barely sleeping because every twitch or funny movement im paranoid.
I don't know what i need from this thread, i just need to reach out.
Thank you for reading.

I’m so sorry. Could you contact AA?
They might be able to help.

The alcohol team from the hospital have just been in touch, but he's yet to reply to them. It's like he won't help himself :(

Someone will no doubt come along with better advice but can I suggest you speak to al-anon.

Thanks, I think I will do that.
Should also add, that he says he feels dizzy all the time.

Loopylou do you still need him to be your carer, or are you recovered now? If you do and he isn't capable of doing it, please contact Social Services, or ask someone else in your family to support you.

Are you sure it's just alcohol, and not drugs as well? If it's not drugs, unfortunately it sounds like his liver is shot to pieces (or his brain). I agree with Al-Anon for you. Does he ever have periods where he's more like himself and you could talk to him? Because it honestly sounds like he's killing himself. Would/could he respond to you putting it so bluntly?

@wonkybanana yes, I'm thankfully recovered now. When he was taken in to A&E they ran tests on liver and kidneys, also a CAT scan, which miraculously all came back fine. He does smoke a small amount of weed yes.

Yeah, there are times when he's lucid, he says he feels like this because he isn't eating

So sorry to read this . I suffer from epilepsy so I know how horrible tonic clonic seizures are .
I can’t advise massively but has he seen a counsellor ? And maybe contact AA as suggested above . Sending hugs to you . Have you got any family to talk to?

Tonic clonics are awful to witness especially if you haven’t seen them before
Most don’t realise they are even having them so please know that.

In terms of alcohol it might well be withdrawal. I have had one seizure during a horrific hangover - severe dehydration after excessive drinking can cause this. (I had NO idea and I drink 2/3 times a year!)

Thank you for sharing your experiences, and for the advice. You think it's a good idea to ring AA tonight? He's gone to bed now, he's been awake a total of 4 hours today. Bloody good job my phone is water proof :(

Anyone else?

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Did you get round to ringing AA? I hate to think you’re alone and sad 😔

@itsemily I did, they've advised me of groups I can contact. Thank you for caring means alot