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Son1aweller · 13/10/2019 18:08

Hey everyone! This is my first time posting. I realky need some help!
My partner and I have two kids, our girl is 8 and my boy is 4. We gave recently been discussing the possibility of having our third.
My worry us my mums reaction. When I found out I was having my daughter, I was 20 and her reaction was horrendous! She told me to get out her face and stormed over to my aunts. Then 4 years later I waited until I was 12 weeks, had our scan and then when we showed my mum she just said, 'not you!' which obviously upset me and even after sge said 'well you can't be that happy about it if your crying' luckily my partner then said, 'well we are very happy actually, I think it was your reaction which has upset her'. I mean she loves her grandchildren but I mentioned to her that we were thinking about trying fur another she just went silent.
I've seen her jump out of her seat with excitement when she found out about my sisters pregnancies, I don't understand why she has to make my feel so guilty about it.
I don't want to be face to face wgen I tell her we are (when we are) expecting again but my aunt said I should because sged be upset (referring to my mum).
What should I do? I'm now worried about falling pregnant incase I upset her?
Confused

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BrokenWing · 13/10/2019 18:43

Have you spoken calmly to her to find out why she is concerned about?

At 20 you were very young, so can see why she might have had some concerns then, but if you are now in a stable relationship, independent of her or benefits, financially secure enough to afford 3 dc, and physically/mentally capable parents what exactly is her problem?

Dowser · 13/10/2019 19:32

Good lord
How strange
Your body your life

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