Son has his first girlfriend!!

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It just doesn’t end does it!

He is 16.
It’s the next challenge, I feel like it’s another milestone for him and us.

So many worries, so many things to think about!

Any tips??

Eh! You sound a bit OTT OP.

Tell him to use contraception if he’s shagging and let him get on with it.

Outside of that just being a decent human being and being nice to her is all you need to do.

This is odd. Why do you need tips?! Let him get on with it and just whack a pack of durex on his bed.

Don’t be that mum...!

You don't need tips, he'll be fine! It doesn't have be a challenge. DS1 was 14 when he started going out with his first girlfriend, they're now 17 and 18 and still together. I just made sure he knew he could talk to me about anything whenever he needed to, made sure she knew she was welcome when visiting, and for the most part they've just got on with things. They've had a few bumps of course but for the most part definitely not a challenge, it's been a real positive to see him mature and I'm sure she's played a big part in that!

And condoms. Make sure he has condoms.

Mine too! He turned 16 in August and she has just turned 17 yesterday! Its adorable. They were friends that developed into something more. We regularly have his friends (boys and girls) over for the evening and they are a great group. His now girlfriend has been coming over for months and we know her quite well and all like her. He has been to her home and they cooked a meal for the family. He was sat between her mum and grandma. She is uber intelligent and I'm hoping some rubs off on him!!

Seriously??

If my mum or dad acted like this when I got my first boyfriend I would've cringed myself inside out.

My 'tip' is to stop being dramatic and go back to your own life.

He won't thank you for acting this way.

My ds is 16 too, is on his 2nd proper girlfriend. Had the talk about protection and concent, also drunk gf is always a no, treat her with respect etc.

I will have the same conversation with my dd when the time comes, albit a little extra chats about obviously what contraception she will be on etc.

Once that's all said and done just be polite to the gf/bf

Also i made a point of saying that when he brings gf over for first time i expect to be introduced and bot to just skuttle up to them room and never meeting.

Its worked well so far

Good luck

It’s more about letting go I think.
He hasn’t got many friends, doesn’t really go out too much.
He told us he was seeing this girl on Thursday last week, so far it’s been relentless phone calls, texting, she is almost hounding him.
He says she is doing his head in a bit.
I’ve not said anything obviously.

What if she is a nutter? Breaks his heart, gets him into all sorts?

He’s 16 now, he has fantastic prospects but is quiet and easily lead.
It’s all learning isn’t it.

I do of course worry about him. Why would I not?

What if she is a nutter?

Any tips? Don't call people nutters.

Get a grip.

Thanks.
Helpful.

Any tips?

Yes, don't announce it on mn.

Her Parents will be feeling the same
Just go with the flow have a chat about condoms and consent though.

No, it doesn't end. It'll never end. After the first girlfriend will be the first breakup, then the next girlfriend, then he will move out to uni, then come home, then probably move out again..

Life is one thing after another, both good and bad. There is never a time, not at any point, where you can just relax and think "I've made it", because if it's not something with the kids, it'll be an ageing parent, money troubles, or something.

So, you need to be a little less dramatic when perfectly normal things like this happen. Yes, it is a key point in his life, but nothing worth making a drama out of.

Just be glad it's not my 17 year old daughter 😂
Anyway I feel your pain as my son is 15 and it's all about letting go ❤️

I don’t think it’s that big of a deal, he’s 16, that’s perfectly normal

I think you are getting a hard time on this thread.
It's lovely that he talks to you and I would just keep encouraging this. If he is getting frustrated by the amount of texts etc get him to set his own boundaries. Do not offer an opinion without being asked even if she does turn out to be a 'nutter' girlfriend. He has to make his own choices. Just be there when needed.

What if she is a nutter? Breaks his heart, gets him into all sorts?

Many thanks for those who are offering some sympathy, I suppose I’m just sad, sad that he is so grown up and that I’m letting go.
Which of course I am.
I’m saying nowt, don’t comment just watching from the edge.
I also totally totally get that her parents will have thoughts about her seeing a boy too.

It’s all normal, i know.
It’s all new to me, I’m learning. Just wanted to chat to people who have been here... as I have done throughout this parenting lark. I’ve got excellent advice, guidance, reassurance and yes a slap round the chops with a wet fish and told to get a grip.
Tis fine.