How to introduce DD to new boyfriend

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DD is 4 and in reception. Her father isn't involved in her life and she's never met him. I'm now with a man and I want to introduce them both. Just wondering how to do this?

Wait at least 6 months and then slowly introduce them.

We've been together for almost 6 months and he's stayed over a few times when DD stays with my mum.

Don’t make a fuss, just say he is your friend and behave, in front of her, as if he were just a friend, until you get a better idea of how they are getting along. I wouldn’t introduce him as a boyfriend until you are sure they get along well and he is here to stay.

Young kids are very adaptable, I wouldn’t be surprised if she makes a place in her heart for your new friend straight away.

Perhaps go somewhere with your daughter. An activity and have him meet you there for say half an hour. Keep it short and sweet. See how she takes to him initially. Don’t label him anything other than a friend. See how it goes then in a day or so ask what she thought of your friend and if she would mind if he came along again in a couple of weeks time. Something like that.
Good luck

My mum shipped us off to my grandmas house telling us she had a meeting with an accountant. We were abit older and absolutely not stupid.

Introduce him as your friend first. Boyfriend may be overwhelming. Let them become friends, once they’ve bonded a little it will be much easier.

For example, the first night he stays when she is home, say “DD, do you think DFriend should stay for a sleepover then we can all have breakfast in the morning?” She’ll feel like he’s her friend too and won’t get jealous that he might be taking mummy’s attention.

Thank you for your replies

I will introduce him as a friend.

Sensible advice here. My daughter met boyfriend/still my OH when she was 4. They never really clicked but we're all alive 19 years on!

Thank you for your replies.

Should I say we are going to meet my friend before? Or when we meet him say he's my friend?

My son is four as well, he doesn’t have another parent so a similar situation to you.

He recently met my boyfriend for the first time, we went to a petting zoo and my boyfriend left before we had lunch as that gave him about an hour with us. As expected my son largely ignored him, as he does when meeting anyone for the first time.

On the second meet we went to the park, MiniSJT likes being chased around the park so made my boyfriend chase him (poor sod).

He’s coming round for lunch today, MiniSJT knows that he has been to the flat before when he has been babysat.

We arranged for me to casually bump in to SS whilst out and about the first few times then, then actually planned to meet up with me, then picked me up in the car, then came over for lunch and so on, very slowly. He always seemed pretty unconcerned about it all and looks forward to seeing me.

I think they are going to meet today. I think we will be somewhere and he comes.

No idea where we will be though.

How did it go with the meet-up op?