Really frightened I've hurt the baby

[RainbowCrashes]

Dp and I have had a horrible row. I lost my rag to his snippy comments, he reacted, it spiralled, he's said some completely unnecessary nasty things, I got even more upset (I'm winding myself up apparently) I ended up on the kitchen floor having a panic attack, funny vision, numb face, braxton hicks (20 weeks). I've calmed down but, still upset but I'm worried I've stressed the baby? Chuffing hormones, I'm normally very resilient and tough it out!

Try and relax. Are you still having braxton hicks?

Is he usually an arsehole?

No more BH but I don't feel right.

He's being the most unsupportive self centred person since I became pregnant. I haven't had one hug in 5 months 😢.

Sorry to hear this. You won’t have harmed the baby. Take care of yourself

You and baby will be fine, however could you call triage for a bit of reassurance? Then you can hear it straight from the horses mouth as it were. Unless he bucks up his ideas parenting might be easier without him tbh.

Hope you're okay, he sounds awful OP :(
I'm sure baby is fine, but I would take some time to rest and feel the movements if you can feel them yet , maybe have a bath or do something relaxing so you can just rest for a while

I'm worried about calling as I have other dc. As long as baby is OK. I have an anterior placenta so any movements I may feel are few and far between unfortunately.

Short term get checked over. Long term, I think you need to re-evaluate your relationship. 💐

Thank you

I'm normally very resilient and tough it out!

This sentence worries me op

I mean him and everyday life in general. I'm strong, matter of fact, level headed etc. Think the pregnancy hormones have changed this. I've never had a panic attack in my life. I am very hurt by dps behaviour though. I haven't been perfect, I've been over sensative and a cow but that doesn't excuse how he's been, cold, uncaring and totally unsupportive.

He's now trying to hug me, get me food drinks. I want nothing only love and care but it's too late. He has ruined this pregnancy I am so incredibly stressed.

It has been known that men become abusive when their partner becomes pregnant. Was he like this before?

Please don't take this. You and your little family deserve more.

It’s not normal or healthy to have ‘horrible rows’ especially not to the point of having a panic attack. Additionally, abuse can start and or escalate during pregnancy! It may be time to call it a day with him and get settled elsewhere before baby arrives.

He's been pretty much the same for years. I guess I just kidded myself he'd be a loving supportive partner. More fool me.

In his blinkered eyes just because he doesnt cheat, swear, shout, get drunk etc he does no wrong. So when he tells me the worst thing he did was to get with me, he doesn't love me like he did, I'm cold and calculating, bringing up an utterly repulsive abusive ex, saying he doesn't care about my family, so so much more, it's fine as he is not yelling or name calling. He's good at gaslighting too, everything ends up being my fault whilst he plays the victim. Not one hug in five months.

My poor kids saw/heard all that tonight. That's what hurts most and I'm worried about the baby.

Sorry, waffling!

Oh @RainbowCrashes he sounds a prize twat and you really don't need him. Nobody should make you feel like that, especially the father of your children. I don't say this often but I really would consider kicking him to the curb.

Please op if you've had funny vision and a numb face and you've been under a high level of stress. Please phone the non emergency number for your area. Panic attacks are incredibly frightening but as you've had some physical effects then give your non emergency number a call for some advice

How did you end up on the floor?

I was dizzy from my breathing then had to sit down fast before I fell down!

I feel OK physically today. I'm more worried about the baby!

Not looking forward to today, its going to be very awkward.

Are the other children his?

I would be thinking about leaving.

He clearly doesn't give a shit. So you and your children would be better off without him.

At the very least I would suggest that you need a quick check over, blood pressure etc. You should have the number of the relevant ward to ring. Ask if you can take your other DC with you, if need be.

Sadly, I think you really need to look at your relationship. If he is being unsupportive and self centred now, then it's only going to get worse when the baby arrives. You are in an abusive relationship.

It sounds an awful situation op
My pregnant daughter presented her cheating father with an article similar to this which he just poo pood

She had a very stressful pregnancy thanks to him...and she didn’t even live with us

www.newsweek.com/how-calm-your-anxiety-during-pregnancy-315242

He's being horrible again. Just vile with his drama. Another panic attack and BH again. I don't know what to do. I have no one. I'm so lonely and so worried about my baby. If I goto my midwife for a chat will she contact children's services?

Do you rent or own? In whose name? He really needs to leave.