15 party invites hand delivered. ONE rsvp text received.

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Just that. Is it me?

The school mums in question are on the playground. They can run, but they can't hide.

Never again! Cheer me up please, am I Not Popular?

Nah. People just forget to reply. I forget until someone asks me if I'm actually coming. Sorry for being a dickhead!

Is the party soon? I don't respond if it's too far in advance.

I do eventually RSVP but just nearer the time

I don't respond if it's too far in advance. Are you waiting for a better offer?

OP do you have any of their phone numbers?

If it's was me I'd create a WhatsApp thread saying that you've had one out of fifteen RSVPs and just wondered if everyone else could please confirm attendance so that you can decide whether to cancel or not. Hopefully several people will respond and each time someone does, the others will all get a msg prompting them also. Makes it harder for people to forget to reply.

It's not just you though, people do get busy and forget to RSVP to invites. It's a pain in the arse!

I always respond immediately - partly because I know I'll forget otherwise, but also because I know with some parties you need numbers in order to confirm the event or venue. Definitely hunt them down!

How long since you handed them out and how long until the party?

I always used to reply asap, but will admit to occasionally forgetting and having to be chased.

If you see them in the playground, just ask them, it's easier.

No, I get this. One of my DC's party is on Sunday. Only 1 is coming, it seems. Thank goodness it's a party at home and so we're not losing out to hiring a venue.

Through meticulous research after the fact (read - obsessive behaviour) I have discovered that my lack of 'please reply BY ....(date) is my downfall. No, I don't have their numbers but as I say I can chase annoy them on the playground, but I hate doing that, makes me look like Billy no Mates. I am

No, it doesn't make you look like Billy no mates - probably most of the other people will have had the same issue so they will probably understand - and actually, sometimes it's helpful when someone reminds you of a child's party you're supposed to be at but you forgot about!

I have a group of very close friends, all our kids were born in Feb and all the parties happen then. This year three people just forgot to turn up at each others parties. Not cos we don't care or like each other(the exact opposite), people just got busy and confused! We agreed that next year the party hosts send out reminders two days before. There's just so much going on.

@QueenWhatevs
Pretty much yeah. I can't commit to one kid going somewhere in 2 or 3 months time.
2-3 weeks ahead is more likely my RSVP timescale!

I have three kids and I only have a clear idea of what we are doing about a week in advance. My husband has his own business so I need to know if he’s working before I can commit to being in two places at once, because these parties are often at the same time. So I never rsvp too far in advance because I don’t want to have to cancel. Unless it’s a best friend, then I prioritize it.

Have you given a deadline? At our school everyone eventually replies but some leave it until the deadline which might be about 3 weeks after I gave it to them. If I don't hear from one or two I just follow it up with a text or a word in the playground "Oh sorry to bother you. Just wondered if Fred can come to the party? I really need to confirm/know numbers now".