Help me word this work email please

[curlyLJ]

I started a new p/t job on Weds and already realise I have made a huge mistake and it's not the job for me. Had niggling doubts before I started, but having been a SAHM for 5 years I put it down to nerves. I should have listened to my inner voice!

So, I need to send an email urgently with an explanation as to why I'm not coming in today (or back at all).
I've been awake half the night mulling it all over and over and now I can't think straight to word it properly.
Can anyone help?

I would say
" I am writing to give notice for my position as xxx. I regret that the role is not suitable for me and I feel it best to leave immediately rather than you needing to invest more time in me. I would be happy to confirm this by phone but I was uncertain of who I needed to speak to."
Do it if that's what you think.

If you are sure you don't want to do it and it won't really impact on your reputation then just a simple email that says

Thank you for the opportunity to do xx job. After the first couple of days I feel it isn't the role for me and therefore I will not be coming in today or another day. I am very sorry at the inconvenience this will cause you.

I am happy to give feedback on the phone if you would like to advise who is the best person to talk to.

And wait for their response.
It really isn't the end of the world, if you don't like it you don't. I don't think it taints women. I don't think it makes a difference whether you leave now or in a fortnight. At least they won't take up pointless tiem teaching you stuff
Good luck

I do agree that if you really aren't going to stay going now is better than in three months when they've invested time training you, at the moment its possible they might still have someone who was second choice at interview available, its the just not turning up and emailing that I think is wrong.

Could you look for another job and quit when you have something lined up?

Lots of people don't like their jobs.

If it's a new role, can you work to change it from within? What made you apply for the role?

Thanks@Icedlatte & @verytiredandstressed
I absolutely know in my heart that it's wrong for me to stay. Better to do that now before they get me set up on all the IT, a laptop and on training.

To clarify, I will also be speaking to them, but when you haven't met your manager face-to-face and don't have a number it makes it difficult. I wanted to send it in an email asking them to call me.

I will be calling the on site manager first thing.

@Icedlatte I'm not saying mothers should be grateful to have a job. I'm saying OP clearly doesn't NEED the job so should have been a lot more specific in her search. As an employer, they'll see her as unreliable, and therefore assume other people in a similar situation will also be unreliable.

I would be very very hacked off.

It sounds like you've not even done the full induction. I'd go in today and try and get to grips with who does what / who you need to talk to. At least give them a chance to put it right.

Fair enough OP - in that case I’d go with wording similar to @AJPTaylor.

I certainly don’t think you should stay in a job you know isn’t right for you or that your are somehow damaging the prospects of other working mothers

What AJP said. And don’t apologise or blame yourself for misunderstanding or reference your return to work from SAHM: they recruited the wrong person just as much as you accepted the wrong job. The role is very different to your expectations and frankly the management of you as a new staff member sounds a bit of a mess but it might be less chaotic in reality. It may be that the people recruiting you think the role is something different to what it turned out to be.

Whether the job is for you or not you need to be professional
Unfortunately I doubt your replacement will be a sahm trying to get back into the workplace

I disagree she should stivk it out for a month. Quitting now means they may still have a chance with one of the other candidates they interviewed at the same time.

As someone who has done a fair bit of recruiting I would say that if you are sure then yes you can write in. They can then look to get the second placed person. Ideally offer them a notice period though they may say not to bother. Don't mess them about with having a chat if there is nothing that they can say or do.

'It is with regret that I have concluded that the post of x is not suitable for me. Although my contract states that my notice period is X I hope that, given that I am yet fully trained you might accept this with immediate effect.

I am happy to take part in an exit interview although would reiterate that I have simply concluded that the role is not suitable for me.

Thank-you for the opportunity and I apologise for any inconvenience caused.'

Don't take this the wrong way but unless you are in a very niche role and word of mouth will kill your career this will all be forgotten really quickly and at best you will be 'remember that woman who only stayed two days?'

Thanks @NWQM and all the other posters who have been supportive.

I have spoken to the team leader who is there today (she job shares with my actual line-manager) and explained this was an error in judgement on my part. She was very understanding and thanked me for my honesty. She understood my concerns and could see where I was coming from. She said I don't need to go in today.

She happens to be having a meeting with the higher manager (who I have not met yet) this afternoon, so she suggested I just drop her a quick email for now, and she will discuss it further with her in the meeting.

She said there might be a possibility of a different role that would suit my skill set better, but ultimately I can walk away if that's what i feel is best.

I feel so much better now. I just need to catch up on some sleep!

Sounds like it could be a great result all round!

Wow she sounds super nice!

Did you hear anything back about the other possible role this afternoon @curlyLJ?

@Bobthefishermanswife there aren't any current vacancies, but she told me to keep a look out for some coming soon. She told me about a role that would suit my skill set much better.
They were so understanding about the whole thing, I couldn't have asked for more. Had a long chat about where the confusion about the role had come from and she thanked me for my honesty and said it was no problem at all. They were glad I spoke up sooner rather than later.
Managed to get a good sleep last night after barely sleeping the night before

Great result then op