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Childs name change by deed poll

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malakai2 · 10/10/2019 20:53

So basically i need some information about name change by deed poll..
When me and my partner met,my partners ex (his sons mum) put forward a load of allegations to the police about him being voilent towards her (out of jelousy) which resulted in a molesation order being put in place for 12 months,so for those 12 months my parnter had no contact with his son..His son had his dads surname until his mum had it changed by deed poll to her surname within those 12 months..my partner wasnt on his birth certificate at the time may i add..
He then took his Sons mum to court to get his name added onto the birth certificate which was granted by the court and he now has parental responsibility..now the problem is the childs mum has stated she wants him to keep her surname as on the deed poll but my partner wants him to have his surname as his birth certificate states..does anyone know how this can be resolved and if the deed poll name change will be valid?shouldnt the father have to consent to the name change before it can happen?
Thank you

OP posts:
Weymo · 11/10/2019 20:43

Class Law is not conclusive.
My ex partner almost killed me twice including strangling, but although the police knew him from numerous incident call outs, I never agreed to him being taken into the police station, or charged, so consequently never convicted.

For the first couple of years I didn’t even call the police to incidents, so some violent men can carry on without any police knowledge whatsoever.

've not been told anything?

You may not have been given any information because:

Your partner does not have a record of abusive offences.
There is no information to suggest that they pose a risk to you.
There is some information is held on your partner but this is not enough to meet the rules of the scheme.
It may be the case that your partner is not known to the police for abusive offences

BrokenWing · 11/10/2019 20:52

Maybe tell him to get good prior right and concentrate on his son and trying to have as amicable a relationship with his sons mother as possible in the circumstances, or at least not make it worse, and not sweat the small stuff?

JoxerGoesToStuttgart · 11/10/2019 22:39

he wasnt put on the birth certificate initially as the childs mother wasnt 100% sure if the child was his or someone elses

But she gave the child his surname? Confused

I think you’ve gotten the story wrong. Or been told lies.

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ProseccoIsTheAnswerHere · 11/10/2019 23:34

But she gave the child his surname

I’m so confused now too

ProseccoIsTheAnswerHere · 11/10/2019 23:37

I would still think your OH needs to back off though. Why does he think his name should over-rule the mothers (and primary carer)

For the sake for his son and his sons mother, it would be best to leave it as it is. It’s a name. That’s it.

Boobiliboobiliboo · 11/10/2019 23:41

Children should have their mother's name if their parents are unmarried.

Women probably should keep their names even if they do marry. What with them not being property and all.

gluteustothemaximus · 11/10/2019 23:43

Child should have the mother's surname.

Fucking sick of men thinking the child, which they didn't give birth to, and who are no longer with the child's mother and has possibly been abusive to...needs their surname Confused

Original poster
malakai2 · 11/10/2019 23:50

Yes aparentley he didnt want to be on the birth certificate as he knew she had been with someone else while they were on a break..she then went ahead without him and gave the child his surname..
Going back to why i originally posted,i just wanted to know if the deed poll was valid and over rides the birth certificate that is all

OP posts:
GunpowderGelatine · 12/10/2019 01:32

Ok OP, there's only one way to say this - violent men don't fess up to their violence, it's always "my ex was lying because she's jealous". Do you really buy that? And do you know how hard it is to get a non-molestation order and a name change without needing the father's consent? Tread carefully here with your boyfriend, this is a big red flag.

As for the name change, why should it be his surname?!

JoxerGoesToStuttgart · 12/10/2019 10:27

Yes aparentley he didnt want to be on the birth certificate as he knew she had been with someone else while they were on a break..she then went ahead without him and gave the child his surname.

There’s one really important word in this sentence.

WatchItGrotchet · 12/10/2019 12:37

A deed poll is a legal document. I have changed my name, legally my name is the one I changed to. I had to relinquish use of my old name.

BrokenWing · 12/10/2019 19:27

The whole situation is messed up op, a good man would prioritise his child and stop worrying about something so small and unimportant. Why is he pursuing this? Control? Ownership? Just being an arse?

Going back to why i originally posted,i just wanted to know if the deed poll was valid and over rides the birth certificate that is all

Tbh The answers on this thread are much more useful to you than your original post.

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