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Bottle feeding position ...

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ScrubDubdub · 10/10/2019 16:43

My baby is 8 months nearly 9 and I can’t seem to stand having him on my lap to feed as he reaches round and slaps my arm rhythmically and it drives me mad.

I’ve read about breast feeding aversion and I think I’ve got similar touched out feelings.

He can sit ip and I can hold a bottle but I can’t tip it enough (mam) to be able to drain the bottle and I can’t afford to put 8 oz in a bottle when he only ever wants 5 and feeds 8 times a day

Is this a stupid problem and what can I do about it?

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BernadetteRostankowskiWolowitz · 10/10/2019 16:45

Lay him on his back on a playmat with his bottle? He should be able to hold it up?

user1493413286 · 10/10/2019 16:52

I know this isn’t really the point but is there a reason he has so many bottles? At that age my DD was on a lot less due to being weaned.
I’d prop him up on a pillow next to you and hold the bottle as much as possible or let him feed himself as much as he can manage then do the last bit yourself; it may feel easier if you’re only doing the last bit to drain the bottle.

BernadetteRostankowskiWolowitz · 10/10/2019 16:55

Oh gosh I just saw that - 8 feeds a day?!

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raspberryk · 10/10/2019 17:05

Just to point out that 8x5oz is the same volume as 5×8oz so imagine morning lunchtime afternoon bedtime and a midnight feed would be fairly normal.
Food before 1 is just for fun!

I would prop on pillows, after 6 months i managed all daytime breastfeeding but the last feed of the day I was touched out and I would lay dd in her cot with a bottle of formula.

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ScrubDubdub · 10/10/2019 17:05

Yes, sometimes feeds are 4oz.

Maybe 6-7 some days but I’ve spent 9 months doing nothing but bottle feeding and burping

When you say any reason, I feed on demand and that’s what he demands, I wish I could ask him !

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user1493413286 · 10/10/2019 18:24

ScrubDubdub that’s fair enough, I wasn’t meaning to be critical I just wondered if there was a way to reduce the amount of feeds as that must feel like a lot to still be doing and my health visitor was on at me to cut bottles and replace them with food at that point although if a baby needs milk then they need it.

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ScrubDubdub · 10/10/2019 18:27

It’s not a criticism don’t worry, can’t even try to criticise milk intake from a non talking baby. Believe me wish i could !

My HV keeps saying that if milk reduces too early then to reduce the solids!

Christ, who the hell knows huh Grin

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ScrubDubdub · 10/10/2019 18:29

And it feels like a hell of a lot. This slapping me while feeding almost makes me want to walk away from him and not comeback, he had reflux til 6 months and had to be held upright for 60 mins, any less and the milk would pour back out (nothing wrong with that apparently Hmm) and feeding every 2.5 hours max meant I didn’t really leave the house for 5 months as I was covered in milk 24/7

I have only just started not regretting having a baby !

Sort of but ....

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raspberryk · 10/10/2019 18:34

Hey reflux is tough, we had it twice over. Also normal to have little and often in that case and not massive bottles. Hang in there.

Don't worry about leaning baby back on pillows, bouncer, stroller as they can feed themselves at this point,

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ScrubDubdub · 10/10/2019 19:13

Thanks @raspberryk, reflux has ruined so much!
So much so I dreamt about 6 month old baby since birth, and now I was 12 months so he eats and doesn’t have so much milk

Well actually now he is growing up I know I ruined tv e early days with my own attitude, and I actually loved to hold him (4th and 5th trimester LOL) for months in front of box sets

Just wish he wouldn’t hit me, it’s probably the equivalent of nipple twiddling !

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raspberryk · 10/10/2019 19:32

Honestly there is nothing wrong with holding the baby, I held my DS for all naps til 9 months. If you could trial a sling before you buy if you don't have one you can start to get stuff done while they are still close. I had my DD in a sling 24/7 for the best part of 18 months lol. She is an independent young madam now she has started school.
I struggled to bond with my DS really as I was clearing up projectile vomit 10 times a day. But he is 8 now and it is a distant memory, I didn't realise I probably had PND with him and I didn't feel myself til he was over 1. I thought that it was just because I was a new mum and he was so sick, who knows. If you think you may be struggling don't hesitate to get some help, whatever it might be. If you still are getting reflux symptoms, hassle the GP, my kids both were medicated in the end and it did improve at around 9 months but even up to age 2 DD would be sick if she had yoghurt, and she quit milk of her own accord quite young she just wouldn't drink it.

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