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What is happening to me?!

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Tatty101 · 10/10/2019 09:06

I've never wanted children. I was that kid who left her baby doll in the bushes outside because it cried. I've never seen the attraction personally but I'm very close to my niece who is 6 - everyone said having a niece and spending time with her would change how I felt but no. I love her, we have an amazing time together (she stays with me twice a week) but I've never seen her and thought 'I want one of my own'. Same with friends' babies/children or anyone else in the family. I dont hate them, just never been wholly convinced by the concept. Which is fine. No kids for me, I'm very career-focused, I've spent the last 8 years after Uni moving around the country getting as much experience as possible and have now landed a mid-high management position which I love. My plan is to keep climbing the ladder at my organisation and I want to do some more study at some point.

Fast forward to last month. Suddenly, literally our of nowhere Ive been hit by this wave of wanting a baby. To the extent that I'm spending a lot of times on threads here looking at the pros and cons, visiting friends with babies more (I visited them anyway ofc but there's definitely been a step up). I've even worked out financially how ML etc could work. Its like this craving to hold a baby, in the same way I crave food when I'm hungry almost.

What's going on?! Where have these feelings come from and why now?! Has anyone had something similar happen? Did the feelings go away or did you end up having a child?

For background, I'm late twenties, household income above £50k, been with partner for 3 years. He's in the same boat as I was, kids are nice but not for us! I also have a medical condition that while wouldn't stop me from having a kid, could make pregnancy and early childhood risky for me.

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Tatty101 · 10/10/2019 10:27

The other thing I've been doing is reading OFSTED reports for local nurseries - I'd laugh if it wasnt all so ridiculous!!

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BendyLikeBeckham · 10/10/2019 10:37

lol, you've got it bad, OP!!!

Bellringer · 10/10/2019 11:40

Not everyone ttc, some just let life happen or contraceptives fail.
Not all childless by choice (childfree) all sorts of reasons why. May easily accept it or be cause of huge grief.
Speak to your partner about your doubts, or it will be a bigger shock later

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BlackCherry666 · 10/10/2019 13:47

I think your hormones are surging at the moment! Nothing wrong with that, but given your age and previous thoughts about never wanting them, I think it would be silly to rush into anything.

Just give it some time

Tatty101 · 10/10/2019 14:20

Wise words for everyone and advice I will endeavour to take onboard!

Some time to see if this fades seem smart and the rational approach as well as re-broaching the subject with the DP.

Thanks all, MN at its finest!

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RebootYourEngine · 10/10/2019 15:07

I have a 15 year old ds and when he was first born I wanted another but that didn't happen and for the last 10 years I wasn't interested in having anymore children. I have had relationships over the years but it wasn't until I met my now partner that i thought about having any more. I am now 6 months pregnant and can not wait to meet my little one.

Life does like to throw us curve balls.

I would suggest talking to your DP about how you are feeling.

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