Just want to share. I think I met a new friend today 😁

[Mummyoflittledragon]

I have never been good at making friends. Confidence issue. Now in my late 40’s I am better but chronically ill having been through a hell of a time this past decade.

Anyway, I was out today with my friend and our dogs and we bumped into a lovely woman. I suddenly remembered I’d met her with her husband and children about 5 years ago and had had a really interesting chat. She said she remembered me too and she had wanted to talk further but couldn't and said had told her dh when she liked me.

She seems on the same intellectual plane as me. Friendly, possibly a bit scatty, is into talking about more than the weather, holidays and the kids. You know when you just click with someone, who reminds you of you? If I had to put money on it, the most likely person I know to be a mumsnetter.

Yay that's nice, good luck .

Thanks 😊

There's nothing like dogs and babies to get you meeting lovely new friends here's to a lasting friendship. 😁

That's lovely. I've made a few good friends this year too, it’s great to have people who ”get you” and who live in walking distance! (we live rurally, I can't drive and there's one bus an hour to the next town until 5pm)

Good luck. Its lovely when you meet someone like that. Its only happened to me once in my adult life after drifting apart from all my school/uni friends.

We are firm friends and speak most days at length, five years down the line.

Oh I love it when it just clicks!

Next time you see her ask her back for a coffee! I've met all my really good friends in the last 10years and I'm nearly 50.

How lovely! I wish this could happen to me. But I suppose that would involve leaving the house so unlikely

Well done for remembering you'd met before - I'm sure that helped.

Really happy for you, OP!

I am the same, never been very good at making friends. I was okay at school but over the years (now mid 30s) most if not all have disappeared because it was always me ringing or texting first and I stopped. Last year I made a friend with a mum from DCs school, I felt we clicked really well. Some similar interests, both with confidence issues but we made each other feel better about ourselves. But she has been very cool with me the past few weeks and I can't for the life of me figure out why. I refuse to blame myself because I know I have not done anything. People are just weird!

I hope you have better luck than me OP.

Thanks for your replies. I got her address and gave mine. I didn’t think to swap mobile numbers. She is going to try and meet my friend and I once a week on dog walks so that will be a great start. I couldn’t invite her back as she home schools her ds and she needed to get home. I was most impressed I remembered her. She said she was going to look up when we met so I obviously made it into her diary or something!

@ChristineBaskets
Bless. Why can’t you leave the house? I know how that feels btw.

@VaperCut
I’m sorry to hear that. This also happened to me and I found myself friendless for a while and very hurt. I am glad you see it isn’t you. You will find other friends. Very few friendships are for life.

The last set of friends, who deserted me was because in the end I was too ill. They treated another friend, who had angina (which got managed by medication) with kid gloves. But me, no. I didn’t know what was wrong for many years and assumed it was chronic fatigue. I still have CFS and it is part resolved after major surgery. In the end, I was so ill before the surgery last year I wanted to die. Having no one to confide in was hard. Dh didn’t get it.

Good luck OP, I hope she becomes a true friend

I think there are many of us without friends in real life, I got sick of being the one that generally made all the contact/did all the giving even though my health was poor. The moment I had to stop doing/giving, so did the friendships. I'm the wrong side of 50 and haven't had a 'friend' for some years now.

@ChristineBaskets I know how that feels too, so you are not alone there

What a lovely post - the nicest I’ve read today. I hope you get to know each other more as time goes on.

So glad I'm not the only one. I mean I went through a long time with no close friends but then everything started to click again. Onwards and upwards, littledragon's mum

What a lovely thread @Mummyoflittledragon I’m really pleased for you.

Thank you everyone. I just thought I could give a little bit of hope to people, who don’t have any or not many friends. @floppylettuceisbest I don’t think there is any such thing as the wrong side of 50.