How much physical affection do you and your DP show each other?

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Are you hand holders? Huggers? Do you like to sit with your legs touching whilst sitting watching TV? And how important is physical affection to you?

We're all individuals, I know, and all have different needs, so I guess it's really curiosity. This has been at the forefront of my mind lately, so guess I'm hoping to find I'm 'normal'! Yeah, yeah, I know, there's no normal....

Would love to hear how important it is to others

DH and I have been together almost 9 years, we are not hand holders and we sleep facing away from each other, but we always have a kiss or a cuddle through the day.

Naff all. He's not a touchy feely sort of person.

We always kiss hello/goodbye. Hold hands occasionally in public. Sit on the sofa watching TV with legs draped over each other or one of us will snuggle into the other.

Physical affection is of some importance to me, not hugely important but if there was none then we’re just housemates, not partners.

A lot, we’ve been together 3.5 years and married 2 months, so I guess it’s still early-ish days but I don’t think it’ll change too much, we’re both very touchy feely and it’s important to us both to be physical with each other. We’re on separate sofas right now but he’s got his hand on my leg, for example.

• Occasional hand holders in public.
• we hug when one of us is showing empathy rather than as everyday thing
• we kiss goodbye rather than hello
• we sit on different sofas
• we cuddle up in bed as long as it’s not too hot

We’ve been married 31 years. Still hold hands sometimes when we go out. Usually sit close on the sofa with physical contact. Have a regular cuddle or hug during the day. Always kiss goodnight or goodbye. Physical contact is really important to both of us.

sorry, should have said, married nearly 19 years

Always kiss goodbye, often have random hugs and kisses. In the evening I sit with my feet on his lap so he can rub them. We cuddle up in bed.
Both in our 50s been married 11 years.

We've been together 9 years, married over 5.5, 2 kids (one is a baby). We don't hold hands in public - DH has never been a fan! We cuddle a lot in bed at night (when it's not boiling) and DH in fairness is good at always making the effort to give me a hug/quick kiss/bum squeeze

This is good to hear, thank you.

PickAChew - does that bother you? I know some people are just not into touching and whatnot. I am, so would miss it, but it's hard when you're with someone that's not fussed!

Together 32 years married 28. Hand holders sometimes when we’re out walking and the world feels good.
Kiss hello, goodbye, for no real reason.
Hugs often. Empathy, joy, celebration, comfort.
Draping over sofa. No, too uncomfortable and dog gets jealous. We use different sofas.

No hand holding. Sit on different sofas, face away in bed. Kiss goodbye and goodnight. Been together 9 happy years.

Married eighteen years.
Lots of hugging and hand holding

Been together 19 years.

Always hold hands walking along. At home we have different ends of the sofa, but if we're sitting together we'll often hold hands or snuggle. In bed, we have to have at least one part touching each other to go to sleep, even if only little fingers or feet

Also say I love you a lot throughout the day (random intervals!)

Neither of us are particularly tactile but we always hold hands / link arms when its just the two of us.

Me and DH hardly ever hold hands. We sit on different sofas. Sleep in separate beds. We always kiss hello and goodbye. Neither of us are very affectionate but i do crave it a lot but don't really instigate it very much. We have very young children but that's no excuse. I think I need to buck my ideas up and make more of an effort after reading these posts!

We’ve very touchy feely. DH a bit too much at times! Verbally affectionate too. We’re both from huggy families, and DS is also a cuddle monster too.

Been together 11 years, married for 8.

Physical affection is very important to both of us. Lots of hugs and kisses, we always cuddle up together on the sofa, also tell each other we love each other every day. We only hold hands some of that time but that's usually because we're busy herding cats trying to get the dcs to keep up and walk in a straight line.

We are very snuggly. Hold hands while out, hug and kiss a lot, snuggle up on the sofa to watch telly, quite often sleep snuggled up too.

I’m glad he likes to give and receive affection as much as I do. Sometimes he even wants it more than I do, which I find really endearing and reassuring. I don’t think I could be happy and really feel emotionally secure with someone who wasn’t physically demonstrative.

I was a straddler if we were alone. shrug

Hold hands when walking quite a lot, lots of spontaneous hugs and kisses when we're alone, often sit watching TV with my legs up on his lap, kiss hello and goodbye eery time. However, I hate anyone touching me when I want to sleep so we face away from each other. Sometimes I even sleep in another room. Been together 4 years.

None whatsoever, not a good morning or good night kiss, zilch. We are both from families that show no affection and never say ‘I love you’, so it’s hardly a surprise! I hate it, but feel after 20 years it’s way too late to start showing/asking him for affection now!

Together 16 years, married 11.

Hand/arm holding when out and about without children hanging off us.
Kiss hello and goodbye.
Random hugs/cuddles/sit on lap during day.
If watching television we sit on same sofa, pressed up against each other. Sometimes he sleeps with his head on my lap, to have his head stroked.
In bed it varies, sometimes a cuddle, sometimes not, but tend to sleep away from each other (SK bed) with maybe a leg in contact.

Ninkaninus - that's it, feeling emotionally secure. I'd find it endearing too if he initiated it more!

Less public affection than at the beginning. We always held hands or had our arms round each other, now we do that sometimes rather than frequently. At home I usually have my legs on him if we're watching tv or sometimes he lies down with his head on my lap. I'm not a hugger when sleeping, DP does try but usually gets pushed off. We do sleep touching though, usually bum to bum or bum to leg. We have a cuddle before going to sleep most nights. We don't kiss each other goodnight, or goodbye either, unless we're going on a trip or something.