Rightfully put out or being spoilt?

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It’s was my birthday on Friday, I work as a private PA to a HNWI, I do everything and I mean everything. I’m on call 24/7 even my weekends are not really my own. I’m paid OK but not nearly enough to compensate the amount of molly coddling I have to do. And yes it’s my job but some of the demands are diva like.

I haven’t so much had a Happy Birthday. I had Friday off and went back in yesterday. For other people’s birthdays I order bouquets, chocolates, champagne etc etc

I’m feeling really bloody put out, under appreciated and a little bit hurt. I’ve been thinking of getting a new job for a while and this has kind of pushed me over the edge a bit. Question is am I being a brat or justifiably pissed off.

Unfortunately it doesn’t work like that. If I spent money on me I would be sacked.

This person can't even bother to handle their own family birthdays so there is bugger all chance of yours being noticed.

Whats hnwi?
I will tell you what i think after

High net worth individual

High net worth individual?

High net worth individual. Tbh is you are buying presents for everyone else then they are not likely to remember your birthday. Stop going above and beyond or demand more money.

High net worth individual. Basically someone with more ££ than they know what to do with. Well in this case.

It's rude but you knew they were rude.

There will be nicer people out there who are just as rich.

I wouldn’t expect a birthday card and present from my boss. If you’re fed up, let it be because the job is too much work for too little money, not because your high net worth boss didn’t think about buying you chocolates and champagne.

I assume that those things are bought for family or business contacts, not employees?

What did you hope, or expect might happen?

I hope you’re being paid ever so well for it!

I used to work for HNWI's too. Not one has ever bought me a birthday present. When I worked for a large company as an accountant my bosses there didn't, either. I didn't know this was a "thing"

I certainly never bought birthday gifts for my staff.

I would expect something at Christmas, but not bIrthday.

It sounds like it was kind of inevitable, as it sounds you like you have to acknowledge everyone else's birthday etc. for them. If you haven't acknowledged it for them, it didn't happen.

Is this your first birthday with them? I assume so, rather than they have forgotten just this year.

If you decide to stay, you're going to have to come to terms with everyone else being acknowledged bar yourself, or engineer it so everyone else knows and they, do your job for you so to speak, and remind them of your occasion, iyswim.

If you're super confident / cheeky and are confident they'd get you something if only they knew can you ask outright in future ? It sounds really grabby I suppose but something like. "Here is the birthdays for next month, could you let me know what you want me to order" and put your name in as well, or the calendar etc.

Thanks.
Its a job, i wouldnt expect my boss to acknowledge my birthday. They pay you for your time, listening, support.. you're not family. Its one sided because its work.

Look, OP, this person pays you to do their thinking about presents etc for them — they’re certainly not going to remember your birthday, any more than my line manager is going to rock up with a card for mine.

If the job is making too many demands on you, quit.

A HNWI used to be my boss. I got truly spoiled by them at birthdays and Christmas, when they took holidays and especially when they retired. Very generous and thoughtful person.

It’s a small company, him and his partner. The partner also has a PA who works away from the office so can’t really compare notes. However last year which was my first year was different - taken for lunch etc. Maybe it was a one off.

The last HNWI I worked for before I had my dc was very generous and lovely but also a diva.

Need to start looking around for something less full on and more reward. The money isn’t great and the commute is killing me.

My boss doesn’t know my birthday and I would t expect him to. I think this is a non-issue as you are paid to sort out birthdays, etc.