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An unusual question

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Nyctophyllia · 08/10/2019 16:21

Can you remove a headstone from someones grave and have nothing there? This would be one that I paid for and erected,

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Nyctophyllia · 08/10/2019 17:42

Tried googling and cant find anything

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LIZS · 08/10/2019 17:47

Who removed it? Many graveyards now remove stones to allow for ease of grass cutting. Has the stone been placed elsewhere.

MrsJoshNavidi · 08/10/2019 17:59

Do YOU want to remove a headstone, or has someone else removed a headstone you paid for?

Tattoosandmemories · 08/10/2019 18:05

I would go direct to whomever is responsible for the cemetery.

I see no reason why not though. They will hold the official records of who is in the plot so no information will be lost by removing the headstone...

Clangus00 · 08/10/2019 18:11

If you hold the title deeds to the grave then yes, you can ask the council or a stonemason to remove it.

Nyctophyllia · 08/10/2019 18:16

Yes I hold the deeds, and yes it's me who wants to remove, I probably wont do it but just wondered if it was possible

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Clangus00 · 08/10/2019 18:17

It is entirely possible.
Good luck with your decision x.

MrsJoshNavidi · 08/10/2019 18:20

Yes it's possible.

Gamorasgran · 08/10/2019 18:41

My brothers has been removed as my dad is now sharing his plot (lolz - all they need is a bottle of whiskey) and stone needs to come out whilst the ground settles. V common according to the undertaker so sure you can in other circs.

Nyctophyllia · 08/10/2019 18:55

But can you then just leave it unmarked or do you have to have something there?

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WorraLiberty · 08/10/2019 18:58

Ring your local cemetery tomorrow, they'll answer your question.

I'm pretty sure it's ok to have an unmarked grave though.

LIZS · 08/10/2019 19:22

Yes it can be unmarked.

Nofunkingworriesmate · 08/10/2019 19:41

They did it for jimmy savile no problem, assuming no other person will object go ahead

Nofunkingworriesmate · 08/10/2019 19:42

Lots of folk can’t afford head stones do unmarked graves v common. My folks have wonky wooden cross only

Nyctophyllia · 08/10/2019 20:57

It's not common here, would be the only one in the cemetery without one

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TheresAFuckOverThere · 08/10/2019 21:03

If you need to do this, you do it

doesn't matter if its not common

Majorcollywobble · 08/10/2019 22:03

You can get a stonemason to remove it if you had it erected in the first place . There will always be a record of the grave held by whichever organization administrates the cemetery.

Majorcollywobble · 08/10/2019 22:03

Should have said there will always be a record kept of the grave space.

Nyctophyllia · 08/10/2019 22:23

Thank you for the replies, I probably wont do it, it just pops into my mind every now and again

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