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Cannot stop crying

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Plaintired · 07/10/2019 22:06

I've been non stop crying all day and I just can't seem to snap out of this foul mood.

For context I've been having a bad time with exdp, he isn't pulling his weight with our dc and have had two major rows over the weekend with him due to the fact he is planning on having another child and choosing his partner over them and I can't do anything about it.Sad

I know we're better off without a lying cheat, but I hate having these feelings and not being able to say my piece to him as he ignores me or just walks away laughing is killing me.

I want to scream and shout, but I have to sit back and keep my thoughts and opinions to myself.
I'm just plain old hurt and angry with the whole situation.

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pumpkinpie01 · 07/10/2019 23:02

He sounds a prize twat , laughing at you how dare he ! I'm not surprised you get angry then end up in tears , have you tried sending him a text about his pathetic behaviour or would you just get an infuriating response ?

PajamasnoDramas · 07/10/2019 23:09

Perhaps you could maybe let some of what you’re feeling out by either writing it out in a letter to him (that you’re not going to send - it’s just a means of getting what you feel out of you) and be as scathing as you please. Or you could jot what you’re feeling down in a journal, or any bit of paper really. I found it helpful way to cope when living by myself and going through a shit time at work, at least it helped me to get it all out and process it.
Then put your feet up get something nice to drink and watch some tv you enjoy or grab a good book to relax.

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Plaintired · 08/10/2019 09:30

It's pointless texting him or even trying to call, he's too immature to have an adult conversation and usually resorts to shouting, which in turn gets my back up and I respond by doing the same thing it's a vicious cycle.

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pumpkinpie01 · 08/10/2019 23:00

Hi op do you feel any better today ? Ex's are very infuriating, just keep reminding yourself how lucky you are not to be with him anymore . I spent years being angry about my ex's behaviour took me a long time to realise he will never see anything from anyone else's view and be getting angry won't change his behaviour. You can't change his behaviour but you can try and change how you react to it , but I do know that's hard but you need to for your own sanity x

pumpkinpie01 · 08/10/2019 23:01

Me not be !

Expo · 08/10/2019 23:04

Am here in sympathy. My ex told me tonight that because I asked him why he didn’t help at all with our two DC (note I do everything and pay for everything - I work full time and they live with me) that I am acting the victim. We just need to pick ourselves up and keep going for the kids. Sending Flowers

Stillfunny · 08/10/2019 23:09

Not being able to be heard is infuriating and you are probably crying from frustration.
Not a lot you can do , you cant force him to be reasonable or nice to you.Expect nothing from him so you won't be disappointed.
He is your Ex for a reason.

unicornsarereal72 · 09/10/2019 08:21

Reduce your expectations. Ask for nothing. Money through cms. And set contact. Then there is no need for any contact.

E mail any information needed such as parents evening etc so you have a paper trail. Then don't engage

I know how hard it is. The father of my children has repeatedly treated the children and me very badly. So I don't engage at all.

I hope as time goes on we can be more civil. But this works for me and my mental well being right now.

Write everything down and don't send it. Just get your frustrations out. And be kind to yourself.

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Plaintired · 09/10/2019 12:58

I do feel slightly better and think that it is just pure frustration at not being able to get my point across.

I know I'm wasting my time and putting my own good energy into fighting with him, but I'm so angry on my dcs behalf at the way hes treating them, he is quite literally choosing a woman over them and it breaks my heart knowing they know what he's doing and I can't protect them from this.

I don't know how men like him sleep at night or how the women that choose to stand by and watch it happen can be so blase about it all.

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Ozziewozzie · 09/10/2019 13:03

Write it in a diary. Maybe that could help. But just add positive things too ie ex dh is a twazzock. Grin
Get it all off your chest

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Plaintired · 09/10/2019 13:11

Love that 😂

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Ozziewozzie · 09/10/2019 13:19

It really works and it makes great reading occasionally. Just remember, high points as well as low points. Also remember to make it about you too, not just him.

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