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We forgot the party

32 replies

sleepingbeautyaurora · 06/10/2019 23:46

So today ds was suppost to go to a party for a class mate BUT we all simply forgot about it (even ds who's been talking about it for days)

Has this happened to anybody else?
Besides sending an apology text ( I do not know the parents ) should we send the birthday girl a present too?

We are a bit embarrassed and dreading when ds realises.

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Lemoncurd · 06/10/2019 23:51

Yes, we were getting ready to go and discovered it had been the previous day! Was mortified. We'd been at a restaurant just a few doors down from the venue at the time as well.

Sent a text to apologise and took the present to school to give to the child the next day. They seemed understanding but I still felt terrible for letting both them and my child down.

Hope your son isn't too upset.

Isthatrightaye · 06/10/2019 23:52

I’ve done it. I went to the invite to double check the time for that week only to realise it was the previous week. So I hadn’t forgotten as such, just mis-remembered what date the party was.

I did text and apologise but the parent has gone from saying hi to me to avoiding eye contact so I get the feeling they weren’t impressed.

seeyoubugaboo · 06/10/2019 23:55

I've done this... of course you need to text and apologise then send ds to school with present. When my DD was in reception she got really anxious and felt physically sick before going to some party's. The first time it happened we took present to school next day and I explained to the childs mum, all was fine and they were very understanding. Youll be avoiding them at school drop off if you don't say something.

RomaineCalm · 07/10/2019 00:00

I've done this, I was mortified at the time but it was never an issue.

Equally DC have had parties where someone completely forgot and I certainly didn't hold it against them.

Apologise by text, send gift to school and apologise in person at the next opportunity. Then forget it.

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sleepingbeautyaurora · 07/10/2019 00:14

It's so embarrassing . We shall apologise and send in a present. Hopefully it won't happen again.

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FurrySlipperBoots · 07/10/2019 00:18

Maybe you could invite their little one round to play? That should be something fun for your son to look forward to, and prove to the parents you weren't snubbing them.

zebrasdontwearbras · 07/10/2019 00:21

Yes I've done it. Was mortified because were seeing the mum/child at school the next day. I genuinely completely forgot.

I gave the mum the present when we saw her, and made up an excuse that DS was sick just as we were walking out of the door. Blush

Katinski · 07/10/2019 00:35

Golly yes! One summer evening we were having drinks on the lawn when friends called round. So I gave them drinks too (might have been crisps and nuts, not sure), chatted a bit, looked at the flower beds, then I said "you really must come round for dinner soon - might you be free next Friday?"

BlushBlushBlush

It was only later when I was checking the diary that I saw the entry A and J - dinner

Oops!Grin

SucculentCandle · 07/10/2019 00:47

Katinski Grin

Catsandchardonnay · 07/10/2019 00:50

Hmm this is a difficult one. This happened to one of my DCs and tbh I was not impressed that they thought my DC’s birthday was so unimportant that they forgot it. No advice really, I’m not sure how you can worm your way out of this. Pretty shitty behaviour imo, they’ve probably shelled out money for your kid’s place at the party.

spongedog · 07/10/2019 01:05

Just be sincere. If you accepted the invite, but forgot to go, then apologise to the parents but please be honest, and do to the child what you would have done if you had attended.

One of my DC friends didnt turn up to their (limited numbers) party previously having accepted. We were all puzzled. Next day in the playground it was clear Mum had totally forgotten and then made vague excuses. Their DC was quite upset and we could all see that the excuses were not true. But no card, no present. My DC is like a dog with a bone - so even years on they still mention this. No amount of trying to put the issue away works. And if I slightly vary the excuse story they call me out on it. Honesty would have worked so much better.

lalalalalabumba · 07/10/2019 01:37

I did once but I'd forgotten to rsvp. The mother no longer speaks to me now.

we've had the odd one not turn up to parties, 1 was even a close friend but to honest I can't get worked up about it. These things happen

I'd apologise and send the card and present

kateandme · 07/10/2019 01:44

yes.made a plate of fairy cakes and a present for the birthday girl.

Howmanysleepsnow · 07/10/2019 07:39

We’ve had 4 parents forget to come to ours over the years. One took my ds and hers out for day to make up for it (not necessary but very kind). One sent a present next day, one didn’t but apologised, both of which were fine. One apologised and gave an excuse then did the same for the next 2 parties too (that child will not be invited again!)

EleanorReally · 07/10/2019 07:44

yes, another one who forgot Sad i think it was reception year

Troilusworks · 07/10/2019 08:02

I turned up once as the party was ending. To make it worse I'd offered to take a friend's son too! The parents of the party child were really off with me even though I apologised profusely. I shoved the presents down and shuffled off. Oh the shame...

Troilusworks · 07/10/2019 08:03

I'd got the time wrong, not just turned up late out of laziness.

CigarsofthePharoahs · 07/10/2019 08:05

I did once forget which week a party was on.
However I thought it was the week before!

DailyMailHater · 07/10/2019 08:11

Someone did this at my sons 5th birthday party they arrived at the soft play just as we we were packing up, they had miss read the time, we were off to a family meal so couldn’t stay The mum of the boy arranged a play datefor one day after school to make up for it.....this was 4 years ago now and the boys and me and the mum are still really good friends.

Apologise, send a present in - these things happen x

allflownthenest · 07/10/2019 08:37

I dragged my DD off the beach (she didn't want to leave) to take her to a party. Turned up to the hotel it was being held asked where the party was to be met with blank looks...... we were a day late! So back we went to the beach with her in her party dress! Didn't know parents at all and was in the middle of the school holidays so I left it to drift Blush

Rickytickytembo · 07/10/2019 08:37

We've forgotten a few over the years. Three kids, two full- time working parents, things get missed. Would always apologise and take present to the birthday child as soon as I'd realised.

A good friend turned up to party house at the right time but a day too late! It was actually great - the children had an impromptu play date and the mums had a cup of tea. Much more relaxing than a party!

BrokenLogs · 07/10/2019 08:41

We got the wrong day. It was Friday after school, not Saturday.

Thank goodness someone text me on Saturday to see if dd1 was ok as she wasn't at the party. We would have rolled up on Saturday, which I think would have been more embarrassing!

We sent the present in with dd1 on Monday and apologised to parent and child for our mess up.

underneaththeash · 07/10/2019 08:47

I took the wrong child to a party once. To be fair we both had children in the same school years and she did put the wrong child's name on the email reminder. However, it was a small party, some distance away and DS2 was too young to join in!

SunglassQueen · 07/10/2019 09:03

They were probably cross because you didn't RSVP lalalalala that's the height of rudeness

notmytea · 07/10/2019 09:06

One person forgot my DS birthday, their son was distraught so I offered a play date instead as I realise how difficult it is to organise a million activities every weekend

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