How do I know if I’m a good mum?

[Hannie123]

My little boy is almost 8 weeks old and as he sleeps on me right now, I just can’t believe how lucky I am to have him. I prayed for him every day after I lost a baby and now that he’s here, I cannot ask for anything more. But with this adoration comes guilt. Am I doing a good job? I mean, when he wakes hourly at night I’m not feeling this gooey lovely feeling I am now 😅

My biggest worry is I can’t give him what he deserves. I guess I always dreamed I’d have a house with a garden and wouldn’t worry about things like money but reality hits and things don’t go to plan.

He’s obviously tiny now but I just want to be the best mum to him. What can I do to ensure that? What qualities do I need to see this through? I’ve workef with young children with special needs for 5 years but it’s a different ballgame when it’s your child.

The fact that you’ve posted asking this question already makes you a lovely caring mum op!
A good mum imo is someone who makes their child feel unconditionally loved, cuddles and kisses and showing affection, telling them you love them, showing them through your actions and by meeting their physical and emotional needs. Being there to listen and be a shoulder to cry on and sharing the good fun times together.

You need to stop overthinking, that's the first thing. Honestly, you'll wear yourself out and it won't lessen the older he gets.

Just do your absolute best for him. That's all anyone can do for their kids.

Honestly, you're a wonderful mum and you're doing a brilliant job.

Everything that @poptart said.
Ensuring your child knows they are loved, safe and cared for of all they need. The 'stuff' is a bonus.

You're doing great, no one can honestly say they feel all lovey towards their baby at 2 in the morning while they're screaming the house down as you're not getting milk to them fast enough 😂