He takes too long to finish (TMI)

[JaffaJane]

Hi all,
The guy I'm seeing (mid-30s) seems to require at least 50 minutes of action to actually finish.. obviously this leaves me feeling very sore and almost put off. He's much quicker with his hands (a few minutes).

He says it feels great, etc. but that he's always been like this. No issues maintaining the hardness though.

Just stop when you’ve had enough? I don’t get this “the man must finish” how many time in your life have you not finished? they’ve done and just rolled off, equality and all that 💁🏼‍♀️

Sex isn't just about his orgasm. Have what you need, then let him sort himself out. Ugh. You are not a vessel to be pounded.

Would he spend 50 minutes on your orgasm?

Probably too much masturbation with a death grip and porn, I bet if he quit for a while or toned it down he would probably be done in a few minutes.

I have this problem. At some point I’ll just give up and he wanks over my tits.
I really prefer it when my minge makes blokes come in five minutes but what you gonna do...

Please don't allow him to rub you sore

Thats horrible! Does he know that you allowed him to keep going even when it hurt?

Dp you tell him when you get sore? What does he say?

But some lube.

No, not lube, just stop! You're not a bore hole.

Wtf is up with some?

I'd guess it's a porn/death grip issue too. If he can stop both for a while it'll be much quicker and more enjoyable!

When I met DH he had this problem. I used to get bored after a while as it could take ages to get there either inside or by me or him using a hand. Neither of us know what the issue was but we persevered and after a few months he started getting quicker and now we have no issues in that department.

Go on your phone and do an online shop or something. It might not feel like such a waste of time if you're able to do another task at the same time.

Ex went on for ages once (a rarity) and I found myself mulling over some shopping I'd done that day and surprised both of us by yelling 'carrots!' when I realised I'd forgotten them.

Didn't make it stop though. The man had no dignity.

If you’re sore and put off - stop. Sex isn’t a long slog to his orgasm regardless of anything else.

potted how insulting.

Smacks of lie back and think of England.

Are any women still doing this and not thinking they deserve to be treated with respect, and to withdraw when it hurts or not doing it for them.

Weird replies here

I would say lots of forplay can help - if I just had sex then I suspect my DH would be the same but we have a long build up to PIV which helps.

Oh god, I had two like this. Bloody nightmare. I'd lose all feeling after a while and get bored. Porn, death grip, and obesity were to blame both times. They weren't interested in improving things either. It made me feel like I was crap in bed. No thanks.

Some men think taking ages is a good thing. The first guy I ever slept with used to time everytime we had sex. He’d roll off me and immediately say ‘how long was that?’

Fuck knows why I put up with that nonsense!