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What can I do?

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Glimmerne · 04/10/2019 10:58

Name changed as this could be outing.

Son is 20. And is a single dad to a 11 month old boy. His mum isn't involved and wanted to put him up for adoption but son told her not to.

The problem is son goes out for a drink every night/every other night and takes drugs when he isn't drinking.

He's also said he is a terrible dad and DGS should've been adopted as he would have better parents.

What should I do?

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Soola · 04/10/2019 11:25

Would you want to adopt the child? Seems the best idea seeing as both their parents have utterly failed them.

Zeldasmagicwand · 04/10/2019 11:28

Are you looking after DGS when son is out drinking/getting high? Or is he left on his own?

Are social services already involved?

20yr old Son needs a kick up the arse!

Newsheet · 04/10/2019 11:31

I would be telling 20 yo son he needs to grow up and take responsibility for his child !

If he isn’t man enough to be a decent father, then he should have been grown up enough to realise that when the option to have the child adopted into a loving home was available to him.

Poor baby

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PurpleDaisies · 04/10/2019 11:33

How long are you willing to be the primary carer for this child? That’s probably the key question here.

Glimmerne · 04/10/2019 17:01

Yes I look after DGS whilst son is out.

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Fatshedra · 04/10/2019 17:15

Adopting by a caring family sounds in DGS best interest.

Glimmerne · 04/10/2019 18:55

When he isn't drinking/taking drugs he is a good dad.

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Permanantlypuzzled · 04/10/2019 19:26

Haven’t you asked about this before on here or is someone else in a similar situation.

JumpyLiz · 04/10/2019 19:29

What should I do?

Ask yourself what is in the child's best interests, and work towards that.

Nonstopbuttmachine · 04/10/2019 19:32

Was this the mummy's boy, wanting to be an only child again?

Maltay · 04/10/2019 19:33

Maybe you could reach out to your local sure start centre? They run parenting classes and have special workers to help teenage/young parents. Maybe it would give you a bit of support too?

ExplodingCarrots · 04/10/2019 19:36

OP I think this is your 3rd thread about this. I don't know if anyone is going to say anything different to what they said before. Something has to change though because of this poor 11 month old baby.

C0untDucku1a · 04/10/2019 19:37

Be is not a good dad because he does those things. Sometimes he is sober does nit a good dad make.

Morgan12 · 04/10/2019 19:44

You keep name changing but the story is the same.

Your son is, quite frankly, a waste of space.

Either you take care of the child and chuck your son out. Or keep enabling him and put the child up for adoption.

Glimmerne · 04/10/2019 20:06

I haven't posted this before

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C0untDucku1a · 04/10/2019 22:41

Time to put the child up for adoption then.

hiddenworlds · 05/10/2019 01:48

Again?

If the child exists outside you imagination then adoption would be best.

Has the child made a significant bond with anyone because if they haven't at 11 months it is probably too late.

managedmis · 05/10/2019 01:50

When he isn't drinking/taking drugs he is a good dad.

^^

So he needs to stop taking drugs then and drinking

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