What can I do?

[Glimmerne]

Name changed as this could be outing.

Son is 20. And is a single dad to a 11 month old boy. His mum isn't involved and wanted to put him up for adoption but son told her not to.

The problem is son goes out for a drink every night/every other night and takes drugs when he isn't drinking.

He's also said he is a terrible dad and DGS should've been adopted as he would have better parents.

What should I do?

Would you want to adopt the child? Seems the best idea seeing as both their parents have utterly failed them.

Are you looking after DGS when son is out drinking/getting high? Or is he left on his own?

Are social services already involved?

20yr old Son needs a kick up the arse!

I would be telling 20 yo son he needs to grow up and take responsibility for his child !

If he isn’t man enough to be a decent father, then he should have been grown up enough to realise that when the option to have the child adopted into a loving home was available to him.

Poor baby

How long are you willing to be the primary carer for this child? That’s probably the key question here.

Yes I look after DGS whilst son is out.

Adopting by a caring family sounds in DGS best interest.

When he isn't drinking/taking drugs he is a good dad.

Haven’t you asked about this before on here or is someone else in a similar situation.

What should I do?

Ask yourself what is in the child's best interests, and work towards that.

Was this the mummy's boy, wanting to be an only child again?

Maybe you could reach out to your local sure start centre? They run parenting classes and have special workers to help teenage/young parents. Maybe it would give you a bit of support too?

OP I think this is your 3rd thread about this. I don't know if anyone is going to say anything different to what they said before. Something has to change though because of this poor 11 month old baby.

Be is not a good dad because he does those things. Sometimes he is sober does nit a good dad make.

You keep name changing but the story is the same.

Your son is, quite frankly, a waste of space.

Either you take care of the child and chuck your son out. Or keep enabling him and put the child up for adoption.

I haven't posted this before

Time to put the child up for adoption then.

Again?

If the child exists outside you imagination then adoption would be best.

Has the child made a significant bond with anyone because if they haven't at 11 months it is probably too late.

When he isn't drinking/taking drugs he is a good dad.

^^

So he needs to stop taking drugs then and drinking