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What is the reason for this logic?

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PullingMySocksUp · 04/10/2019 09:51

I’m about to start a new contract in a few weeks and am off work till then. Mostly trying to get some house stuff sorted but also pottering about. I suggested to DH we take the opportunity to go out for lunch here and there. He said yes. Makes sense while children are at school.

This morning I pointed out that two weeks have gone by and we haven’t.

He says I can’t be grumpy with him for not taking time off work because I didn’t take any time off over the last few months when he suggested it. I was working my arse off, was ill for a few weeks and therefore got a bit behind and did not take any time to even go to dentist or have smear etc done. Not once did I even pop down to the supermarket.
He works for himself and takes bits of time off here and there to go for a walk or pop to short hobby event things. Pokemon catching.

But despite me not being able to take time off, he says it’s the same. I don’t care that much about spending the time with him but I just can’t work out how he can’t see the difference. Or is there none? Is it me?

I know this is really minor, I’m not making a massive deal out of it, I just want to understand his logic. Because to me, there isn’t any.

OP posts:
WispyTurnip · 04/10/2019 09:54

But you're the one with all the leisure at the moment -- have you been saying, 'OK, would like to go for lunch at X on Friday at 12.30?' and he's refusing each one. Or are you expecting him to suggest lunch dates?

PullingMySocksUp · 04/10/2019 09:56

I’m expecting him to let me know when suits him, as I’m the one with all the leisure time. Smile
But it’s more the not being able to be grumpy with him because I didn’t take time off over the last few months, when I feel I couldn’t. That’s the logic I don’t follow.

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AmIThough · 04/10/2019 09:58

He just doesn't want to sort it.
Tell him you're going for lunch on Monday at 1pm.

Ohyesiam · 04/10/2019 10:01

He’s just doing that thing where he is being obtuse to mildly rain on your parade. The pleasure of refusal.

Set a day and tell him where you are going

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