DD has just started at a very good grammar school. She worked extremely hard to get in, and we are so very proud of her.
She seems to be getting on well, and to be making plenty of friends. However I've had a few niggles of worry. On quite a few occasions she has mentioned how so and so's dad is a professor/bigwig in local council/consultant, you get the idea. There have also been tales of one friend's horses and ponies
We live on the other side of the catchment area, in Normal Village, many of these children live in Posh Commuter Village.
For background, DH and I both have degrees from RG universities, he works in a manual job and I work pt for a charity. We probably could have done more, but I had DD young, and DH was very ill after he graduated, so we've never really got as far as having a "big job". We own our own home, the bills are paid, DD and our younger DC do numerous activities, and we're happy.
However I've now started to worry that we have thrust DD into a position where she is going to feel inferior to her friends. Today she came home and she was a bit quiet. I asked her what the matter was, and she said that her two friends had already visited each other's houses. They did not know each other before September and live the same distance away from each other as from DD. Apparently the mothers swapped numbers through the children and arranged it.
The three girls have been inseparable since the first day of school. I was going to wait a few weeks then ask them both over myself,or suggest that I taxied all three to a cinema trip. I'm probably being paranoid, but I feel that DD's family background has been picked over and found wanting. One of the girls has a habit of asking the other children what their fathers do and how big their houses are. She also, according to DD, was asking quite a lot about our family - pointing out that our younger DC were DD's half siblings. To be fair, DD wasn't upset by this and it did seem to be in the context of normal preteen curiosity, but like I say, I feel that perhaps a picture has been formed amongst the other parents.
Please talk some sense into me. She's such a lovely girl and we are a very happy family, I don't want things to go wrong for her here. I almost feel like pulling her out and sticking her in the village comp.